Updated Rant on Uniforms
I just wanted to give an update on the Uniform situation that I received a big response from, the situation was basically that I send my 14year old SS to school in a dirty uniform, because since the begining of the year I asked him and BM to send a clean one so that Im not doing wash everything Thursday night.
So anyway, DH and I had an awful weekend because of the fight that started that Friday morning, when he accused me of punishing his son 14, for what BM does. ha
Well I received very stupid and insulting emails from BM, but I stuck to my guns...responsibility and consequence. ..and informed her several times that his has been going on since Aug. I even forwarded her the emails I sent her, to please send a clean uniform
After all her crap flying around in emails ,,,I just said "listen the ss is going to school in a dirty uniform if he cant pack his own bag."
Well guess what I got in the mail yesterday? A brand new uniform fromt he manuf. $58.00...BM paid for it.
DH was laying in bed this morning and I threw it at him and said look what we got..I had to fight tooth and nail to get that thing...for what? because you didnt back me up and BM knew I was serious so she bought one..and she was being a bitch and couldnt send it months ago when I asked her.
I did get satisfaction from it..but like it always is with SS, DH and BM ..I have to fight and prove myself if I feel its right.
Oh and guess what DH said this morning" maybe we should wash it first before he wears it.' WTF is he 2years old with sensitive skin...I shot DH a look that could kill him...if looks could kill.
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If you believe
you are right about things than that is good that you stand up to her your only trying to take care of your ss there is nothing wrong with that.
I would have made SS wash
I would have made SS wash his own uniform. He is 14 yrs old.. he is capable of operating a washing machine and a dryer. As a matter of fact, the next time you have him, I would give him a lesson. That way he can start washing his own bedding as well.
Why do they think WE should be punished because someone else is lazy??? Good for you.
I agree, it's time he does his own laundry.
I believe that's the biggest problem with kids, and the adults they become (such as BM's) is they are not being forced to be responsible for themselves. And the reason is parent's and step parents are made to feel guilty or looked at as cruel if we do not wait on them hand and foot.
There is an awesome author, John Rosemond, with great things to say on the subject. Pretty much he says failing to dicipline our kids and force them to take responsibility for themselves as soon as they are able is a form of neglect.
Granted, I'm not there yet, so I absolutly cannot judge. But sounds like a good idea to me. I'm just sorry as the stepmom you get the bad rap.
Congrats on your victory though, you were absolutly right to stand up for it!
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, and I---
I took the one less traveled by,
and that made all the difference. -Robert Frost-
That is great!
Now why did it take all that, for her to provide for her child?!!!! good job!
"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin