Now H has upped his campaign to get me to miss my trip. He follows me around asking me all pitiful what he's supposed to do. He wants to know who is going to take care of him and sd while I'm gone. I tell him take care of yourselves, you're both adults. The only worry I had about being gone was about my pets but I made arrangements for them to go to a sitter. I don't trust either one of them to take care of my babies. It's amazing that when the whinny, poor me act doesn't work he gets contemptuous, but that's not working either. He accused me of abandoning my family. This from a man who thought it was okay for his sister to go on a month long cruise when her baby was only 3wks old and no she didn't take the baby with her. He said she needed a break from being pregnant and then having the baby. WTF I brought this up and according to H that's different. So I tell him to get his head out of his butt. I know I shouldn't be but sometimes I'm stunned at how dense he can be. For instance a couple of weeks ago I DVR'ed a 20/20 about the Appalachians and we watched it together. It was filmed not far from where I grew up and watching it made me very sad and homesick. I haven't been home in years. When I tell him his response was about how these people are stupid and deserve whatever they get. I know he can never understand how I feel but he could have been a little sympathetic. That's why I need this trip so badly, I really need to get away and think. Sorry this has gone so long. There's more but I'll save it for later. You all are great, I'm glad I found this site. I think if I hadn't I would have gone crazy.