Nope,

My wife occasionally goes to NY to visit her sister for a weekend and brings SD13 and BD2 with her. I LOVE IT.

I wouldnt necessarily let DW know how much you love it, but its fine to let her know you enjoyed some downtime and time to yourself.

i SOOOOO understand where youre coming from. i went from being a bachelorette w no one at home except a doggie, to moving in w now-DH and his teenage son and having SD EOW. it IS a huge adjustment. i love my husband, and my life, but i cant tell u how many times i wish i could come home, sit around in my bra and undies (TMI, sorry!), eat cheese and crackers for dinner and watch Sex and the City all nite w/o having to worry about anyone. i miss sleeping in until noon on saturdays, only to wake up and lay in bed for the next couple hours watching the food network. i miss sharing my dinners w my dog w/o anyone bitching about her being on the couch or me giving her food. i miss it all.

theres nothing wrong w us. we all need alone time. but like msloan said, i wouldnt let DW in on just how much youre enjoying ur wkend alone!

ENJOY!!!!!

"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin

No you are NOT wrong for feeling that way. Hell, I've got a Kool-aid smile posted on my face for you. You are right, we can all assume what it may be like, but the reality is nothing is always what we dream. Sometimes it is better and others it is worse. It is just unfortunate that in most circumstances with blended families it is far worse than we dreamed or expected. I think we all go in to it thinking I have a kid, or I am good with kids, or my nieces and nephews are a blast...How hard can it be? Well, this is an entirely different kit and kaboodle.

Wonder if DW was on the plane wondering why you sped off before she closed the door? Teeheehee. I love the whole slow to 10 mph and tuck and roll. Hilarious and I can picture it. Almost like on some reality show like Survivor, throw their bags out and they have to catch their stop or miss it all together.

I'm not the adventurous type but when I have the house to myself, I walk around half naked too (just the essentials covered) yea I know TMI, but I miss the freedom to dress or not dress if I choose. I get me something delicious for dinner (seafood usually) with a glass of wine. I don't get my fill of Golden Garlic Crabs because the kids don't like much seafood. THey eat fish, salmon, tilapia, catfish, perch, orange roughy and SS will eat the occasional shrimp. I can't ENJOY crabs because they scarf down their "chicken strips" and are ready to go in 14 minutes. I like to savor my crabs and take my time with them. Eating crabs are an art form. Mmmmmmmmmmm. Yummy. I have to get my melted butter with just the right amount of fresh lemon and all of this takes time dammit. So, I indulge when it is just me. So, yes I miss the single life some days.

Enjoy your weekend of cleaning shopping and letting it all hang out. LOL.

People who get on HIGH Horses will find the fall to be painful. ~ME :->

Everybody needs a break from kids husband/wife that is totally normal.When is the next time this will happen?Thats what i thought ENJOY!!!!!!

enjoy your peace and quiet ..we all deserve a break every once in a while.
i adore my two sons but when they are both out for the evening...I enjoy the solitude

"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."

my house when I'm all by myself.

Naked.

lol Just kidding.

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JamaicanMeCrazy
DISNEY LIED...THERE IS NO 'HAPPILY EVER AFTER'

Mike, your post made me lol, literally! I can definately relate. Although I don't have skids at home underfoot, I do understand. DH used to work nights and I never thought I'd say this, I miss my alone time where the only person I had to account for my actions is ME ME ME!!!! (And my furbabies, of course!) I miss eating whatever I wanted for dinner even if it was just a Corona & dark chocolate; I miss watching the t.v. shows I want without feeling guilty; I miss sprawling out in the middle of the bed, taking a shower without hearing "honey, do you know where (insert whatever)is?" I could go on and on, but you get it. GOOD FOR YOU!!! Enjoy every minute of your weekend, you certainly deserve it.

eat what you want,sleep when you want,watch what you want pretty much do what you want omg that sounds like so much fun.

It sounds like you have inspired alot of us to let loose.

is ther is going to be alot of us running around in underwear and eating crab legs tonight lol!!!!!

we have FH kids this weekend...
I will have to miss out of the fun....for NOW>>>> }:)
"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."

that we all dont live in the same town LOL.

my craziness can be blamed on pregnancy hormones but the rest of u....well, i think y'all are drinking. and im very jealous...:(

"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin

is the most ive laughed in days!!!

And don't let guilt or any other negative emotion enter your head for a single moment- ENJOY YOUR TIME ALONE!!!!

Making this transition to stepdad has been huge for you, and in reading your other posts, it seems like you've been doing a terrific job in the face of difficult circumstances.

As a mom myself, I very much enjoy ANY time I have away from the kids (both my own two sons and my three stepdaughters).

I love your comment, "Yep, I'm doing it because I know it will STAY clean since there aren't any sticky fingers or careless people who will be riding in it the next few days (please don't get me started about how I found "hot cheetos finger prints" all over the leather of my back seat and random candy and gum wrappers on the floor!)."

That's one of the first things I do, too, when the kids are gone- clean my house and my car! I like to "erase" all traces of the messes the 'darling' children leave behind- especially those NASTY fingerprints!

ENJOY!

"Of course things worked out nicely for Carol Brady...she had a live-in maid and Mike's first wife was DEAD!"

And this is why I don't live with my BF...separate houses is good. We do a 24/5 during the week, but come his weekends to have his daughter...I'm home ...doin' what your gonna be doin. Enjoy. We are going to Mammoth today on a company ski trip for the weekend. My sister is coming next weekend...so I'm already freakin from not havin two weekends by myself to do whatever I want to do. Have a great weekend!

And this is why I don't live with my BF...separate houses is good. We do a 24/5 during the week, but come his weekends to have his daughter...I'm home ...doin' what your gonna be doin. Enjoy. We are going to Mammoth today on a company ski trip for the weekend. My sister is coming next weekend...so I'm already freakin from not havin two weekends by myself to do whatever I want to do. Have a great weekend!

And this is why I don't live with my BF...separate houses is good. We do a 24/5 during the week, but come his weekends to have his daughter...I'm home ...doin' what your gonna be doin. Enjoy. We are going to Mammoth today on a company ski trip for the weekend. My sister is coming next weekend...so I'm already freakin from not havin two weekends by myself to do whatever I want to do. Have a great weekend!

for DH and the girls to go to Florida for a week to visit his mom.

You know what I did?

Nothing at all.

"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley

I loved the slow down and tell the kids to "tuck and roll"! I have threatened that to SS on several occassions. Have a great weekend. I went from being 30 just me to wife and stepmom and I miss being at home alone!!! I would for sure have way too much to drink this weekend!

laughing histerically at work!! Im sure the receptionist probably thinks I have fallen off my rocker! I can see everyone running around in their homes in their birthday suit and smacking on some crab legs.

Mike, No dont feel quilty at all. I long for the days on the weekends that my BD's are gone and the SD's are gone and I can just rock out in my undies and watch lifetime all day. But lately it appears that our kids feel like they miss out on something if they leave the house.

SO have fun, drink one for me, and have a blast!!

my mouth is watering at the thought of wine or a margarita...*sniff sniff*

"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin

I would give ANYTHING for a weekend to myself!

There is a special technique to all of this and I have been practicing for years. When they call to check up to see how you are doing you have to really lay it on thick. Ex: I have been miserable here in this empty house without you. Baby doll when are you coming home? Its so quiet its almost unbearable. I'm not going to let you go off again any time soon because I miss you too much. When you hang up the phone you just have a big grin on your face because you are so happy. It makes them feel great because you sound so miserable and pathetic without them.

There is a special technique to all of this and I have been practicing for years. When they call to check up to see how you are doing you have to really lay it on thick. Ex: I have been miserable here in this empty house without you. Baby doll when are you coming home? Its so quiet its almost unbearable. I'm not going to let you go off again any time soon because I miss you too much. When you hang up the phone you just have a big grin on your face because you are so happy. It makes them feel great because you sound so miserable and pathetic without them.

My DH loves it when we all leave the house, and he should! We're all gone next weekend and it'll be meat eating, male bonding, underwear sitting and all the other guy stuff you can think of. Enjoy!

HA!

ME time is critical for everyone. When I need ME time I buy my wife plane tickets to go visit her family usually while SS is on visitation with BioDad. I am of course appropriately disappointed that I can not go but I sacrifice and send her off without me. }:)

Underwear sitting, TV watching, car racing, camping, hiking, rock climbing bliss any time I want it ......... at least until I have to go pick up the wife and/or skid from the airport.

In honor of the TMI vein that has been running through this thread ....... It is incredible to not shave, run around in my underwear and scratch what needs scratching without any comments about what I scratch and when I scratch it.

When the phone rings I am of course appropriately depressed that I am missing all of the In-Law fun and games. :sick:

Now the interesting juxtaposition. Though I absolutely enjoy my alone, recharge ME time I am excited to go pick up my wife (and the Skid) when they come back.

But, I would not trade the occasional Man-Weekend alone ME time for anything.

Enjoy!

Best regards,

Have a great weekend Mike! Oh how I wish I was you right now. I can't remember the last time that I actually got a free weekend away from everybody. I'm guessing about 4 or 5 years now. If I had a weekend to myself I would walk around in my undies, sleep all day, eat whatever I wanted, watch tv, go to lunch w/ my friends and just relax. And if I wasn't pregnant I would probably have a couple too many drinks. Oh, those were the days. I hope you have a wonderful weekend alone. Enjoy the sleep b/c once the baby comes you will never sleep in again!!!