I wrote my first post about a week ago and then kinda got distracted with work. So just wanted to follow up!

My boyfriend and I still are not getting along very well. We had the whole arguemnt about the SS20 getting a job and being more responsible. I feel like boyfriend listens to what I say but doesnt really hear me. He agrees with all my points, but doesnt do anything to change things. We have been arguing constantly about SS20 not having a job, not helping around the house, but staying in his room 24/7 sleeping, eating, playing video games and talking on the phone. Our last huge arguement was just last week prior to Valentines day. WE aruged, I told boyfriend I want SS20 out of our house if he can't do the simple things like help out around the house and start making a bigger effort look for a job. Boyfriend, of course, got really angry and upset says he feels like I am making him choose between me and his son. SS20 is supposed to join military and leave in April, I told boyfriend that if SS20 does not do this than my BS11 and I are going to look for another place to live, but that our relationship would need to be reevaluated. Anyway I feel better that I told boyfriend how I was feeling, but now that I look at the whole situation really nothing has changed. This is how it seems to go, I explode after holding in for months about SS20's behavior and attitude, boyfriend listens and says he knows things need to change (but they never do), then SS20 will leave the house for about a week just enough time for me to cool off and then he comes back and boyfriend acts like everything is peachy and nothing happened. Do any of you ever feel like it is just a rotating cycle with nothing really ever getting any better?