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another sunday call from BM

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Submitted by wellbutrin on Mon, 02/09/2009 - 5:02pm

This time I did not answer it. It was 10:00 PM. my daughter is sleeping and BM calls. My H and I did not answer it and let the machine get it. Sounding very mad she said that she knew it was 10:00 but she really need to talk to H and for him to call her.
I looked at my H and said " I did nothing and said nothing to SS all weekend" I'm sure SS went home and told BM that he felt he was not wanted there or I said somthing!
To find out my H told me that SS told him back in May of 08 that SS looked H in the face and told him that SS felt like I did not want him there anymore. I asked H why he didn;t tell me at that time so I could fix it or change something. H said he did not want to hurt my feelings. REALLY didn't want to hurt my feeling, but he will tell me I act like my mother ( she can be a little daring somtimes and yes it does hurt my feelings) I think I need to know these things. now I feel like SS H AND BM are keeping things from me.
Then I asked him if he wanted a divorce? he said no and went back to reading his truck paper. I went in my room crying hoping he would come in there and talk but NOOO he kept sitting in his chair reading... I felt wanted!!!!!
I tried to call to see if BM called him today and see what BM said, I don't think he will tell me any of that conversation. H also says that he is tired of us always fighting over the same thing. BM and SS.
I;m getting so sick of this. every weekend I look like the bad guy and now I;m afraid to be left alone with SS or go anywhere with him.
any input would be great, thanks

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Submitted by sam on Tue, 02/10/2009 - 7:10am

dh that you dont want to be alone with ss why if all that happens is you getting shit on.Tell him you feel thats the only choice you have!!

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Submitted by FallingfromGrace on Tue, 02/10/2009 - 7:59am

My DH does this to me all of the time. BM will complain about me or my kids and DH will not tell me. He will work with BM to come to an understand or whatever...but never even tell me there was a problem. The skids will tell BM about an "issue" they have in our home and she will in turn tell DH that he needs to "talk to the skids because of this or that" and he will take care of it but never tell me anything. If the skids are feeling bad about something going on in our home, he should tell me so I can be part of the solution.
To me that is the same as lying or hiding something from me. It makes me feel left out too! I am part of the "problem" but I dont even know there is a problem and then I am not even included in the solution or discussion. It makes me feel like they are a family and I have no part in it.
Yes, it is keeping secrets from us. It is not right!

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