it always seems like anytime we think anything good is gonna happen, it doesnt and we are disappointed we just cant catch a break.

DH gets CS from BM#1 for SS15 who we have custody of. In the original court order, he agreed, like a nice man who wasnt trying to bleed the ex dry unlike BM#2, to $350 a month for 2 kids (SS20 has since moved out). We thought, hey its been years since they were divorced and shes been getting off easy for awhile, so being over 3 years, lets put in for a modification to review. DH knows she makes AT LEAST the same as him and so by calculation, should be getting at least $100 more a month. AT LEAST. hes guessing she makes more than him now.

so we put in for the review. shortly after, receive a letter saying we will be getting $160 a month IN ADDITION TO what we already get. we're thinking GREAT!!! something actually went our way. not so fast, chica!

first, they send him a visa-type card and a letter saying $80 was deposited (BM gets paid every other week). This goes on for a couple weeks and we get this deposit on the card in addition to the regular CS check we get from her employer. im thinking, hey this is kinda weird getting CS from 2 sources but whatever, we'll take it.

while we were away visiting my family in PA (wish i could go back ALREADY), he received a letter saying that there was a discrepancy and the issue is being reviewed. so DH calls. she said basically someone from the CS dept noticed the difference and was asking about it. she told him that he wouldnt be getting the extra $160 a month until this was reviewed and that we would be getting a letter. once it was reviewed, and the cs amount changed, DH would get arrears from the time he signs for the registered letter. BUT the original CS check from her employer wouldnt stop.

WELL IT DID. havent received one in a couple weeks so DH calls her employer and they say that they recived a court order saying the amount was changed to $160 a month. Dh said no thats in addition. they said no, thats not what it said, but we will call HR and in the meantime, DH is to contact the CS people at the state. in the meantime, today we get an $80 deposit on the card. WTF.

the thing is, and as all u CPs know, we just cant afford to not be getting that original $350 until this all gets sorted out. AND leave it to our luck, when it all does get straitened out, we will probably be getting LESS than we were before. bc thats just how it goes for us. try to do something to help us out, something FAIR AND JUST, and we'll probably end up getting bit in the ass instead.

and my car overheated yesterday on the way to work. god knows how much THAT will cost. we cant afford it anyway, thanks to no CS check. looks like we'll be $350 SHORT this month. AND now i cant go see Stepwitch for her bday and buy her a drink AND the crazy SIL is already asking if they can come over saturday to give SD her xmas gift. bc it wasnt good enough to give it to US to give to her, they have to see her themselves. it was okay when they didnt see SSs to give them THEIR gifts, but not SD. guess they have to see the look on her face when this 3 yr old unwraps a play LAPTOP and has no freakin clue what to do w it. i suggested saving it for 2 yrs until she may actually be able to use it...;)

i know its all trivial compared to what alot of y'all are going thru rite now but DAMN. just isnt my week. and its only tuesday