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Submitted by FuBaR on Mon, 12/15/2008 - 4:25pm

My FH or should I say future exfiance is the biggest liar, god ever put breath in..I swear to god this man couldnt tell the truth if his a$$ was on fire and I had a bucket of water to put him out, but the glitch being he would have to tell me the truth about something he would rather burn to death..So today I catch him up in two different lies..The first one I check the bank account which I dont often do bc well I have this thing called trust that I no longer have. I see 116.00 dollars made out to his lawyer, so i ask him "jackass what is the amount for" well he answers umm you see I spelled the ex's name wrong and it went through but someone caught the misspelled name and now its void bc i misspelled her name..Okay after being with some for 14 so years how in the hell do you spell their names wrong..I even asked him "jackass why is she spelling her name like this when its spelled like this other places", oh "jackass replies it has to be right she doesnt know what shes doing". But dear old jackass is the one who screwed up..He then proceeds to tell me that he didnt tell me bc it was in my best interest..OKay since when is hiding things from me in my best interest??? Then around 3pm today we get some mail of course I open as I always do..Low and behold what did I find, an insurance card with she devils name and her daughter not "jackasses" daughter btw. So I call him wtf is going on you told me that you taken her off and I knew nothing about lil she-devil being on his insurance..Here I am sick with a cold no insurance cant afford a doctor but this Motherf**ker has his ex and her daughter on his insurance..I left a great job house and my life for this..Its been on big lie after another and yet somehow Im the one in the wrong one for opening his mail and two for looking at the bank account. So now look who is the fool me for not having shit here no job no family no friends no car no nothing bc I left all that back in my hometown..And theres no way Im going back there so my family can make fun of me for ruining my own life..I cant believe I have got myself into this mess, I so need a job get my own place and get the F*ck outta here..If theres anyone out there who has left with nothing and got some advice I would love it..

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Submitted by Sasha on Mon, 12/15/2008 - 5:27pm

I did the same thing earlier this year after finding out my H was lying to me about drinking (he's an alcoholic and fell off the wagon). After the third lie I quit my job, packed my stuff in my car and left. Was it humiliating going back home? Not as bad as what I thought it was going to be. In fact, all my friends were very sympathetic and kind about the whole thing. So don't worry about what people think...you have to do what's right for you, and no one else can make that decision except you. It hurts your pride a little but believe me, it won't be anything close to what you have pictured in your head.

For us, we decided to work things out and we are back together. We really did need the separation to realize what was important to us individually and as a couple.

So again, don't worry about what people might think of you. If anything, look at it as a big learning experience. It may not be as fubar as you think it is!

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Submitted by nicole on Mon, 12/15/2008 - 5:47pm

its him...Why in the hell does he have his Ex on his insurance....Oh boy, you need to read some of my blogs...This crap wont stop...If he is doing it right there with you there...I have a Fh and he has his ex step children on his Life insurance...I have a part time job
, no insurance,, and he pays their bills...I havent been to the dentist in years...But his ex step kids have a cell phone...Ive been with him for going on 6 years...If you need to get away, do it now....Do not marry a man that puts his Ex before you

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Submitted by bewitched on Mon, 12/15/2008 - 6:12pm

"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere

and I didn't leave my home. But the rest of the story-lied too about finances, secrets kept...oh, boy do I identify.

Best thing you can do, as I see it, is call your ex employer and see if you can get your job back. If not, find one where you are-don't tell him what you're doing. Save up for a few months, till you can get a place of your own, and walk.

Best of luck

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Submitted by Sia on Mon, 12/15/2008 - 7:01pm

take the jokes for a while then tell them to shove it! Go HOME!!!! RUN!

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Submitted by KeepsGettingBetter on Mon, 12/15/2008 - 11:10pm

About a year and a half ago BF and I spilt for about 6 months, I was living with him at the time, so I had to pack all my things (furniture and all) and move out back to where all my family lived. I, like you had in my head especially how my parents were going to be like because when I first got with BF I was told that I'm stupid if I move in with someone who has 3 children, he will never love you, the BM and skids will always come first. So to go home and tell my parents especially dad that he was right was the hardest thing to do. But like Sasha said I was surprised at the reactions. Everyone was more worried about my sanity and welfare rather than the I told you so. So now that BF and I are back together and have been for about 1 and a few months since the spilt, there is still no gurantee that things will work out. I was told again to not go back but I didn't listen as always, but my family and friends are always there supporting whatever decision I make.
Your family and friends will be the same and if they are not supporting you then how important are they to you anyway if they aren't going to be there for you.

PM me anytime you like hun if you need to talk. I understand.