My dh went to pick up the skids on Friday afternoon. He got there at 1:40pm (we live an hour and a half away)... He is told the skids have not had lunch. UMMMMMM... its almost 2pm and she has not bothered to feed her children lunch. Now.. DH and I have been trying to conserve $$ and have decided to go with not spending frivolously.. THIS is an added expense, as now she expected my dh to DEAL WITH his kids being hungry, yet they have been at her place ALL MORNING AND early afternoon. What kind of person DOES THIS???

Dh never did tell me if there was any resolution to this.. I didnt notice any transactions on the debit card.. but he told me this as he was hurt and upset for the skids. Like.. Is this COMMON?? that she doesnt feed them?!?!?

That night we made a nice dinner for them. They played a little of the WII and then off to bed. On Saturday we had a big day planned. I had purchased tickets to the Futures at Fenway.. it was a double header of minor league games. We all had slept late, then DH made a big pancake breakfast that we finished at 11am. We cleaned up and headed in. Had hot dogs and fun.. while standing in line to get autographs of the players, SS9 has this breakdown over his hair. He wants to let it get longer, and bm keeps buzz cutting it. He starts crying over it (this was after I said to sd9 that her hair looked nice).. OMG.. dh talked him down from that ledge, w/a promise of, I'll talk to mommy. (Good luck there)

We are on our way home (after spending oodles of $$, but staying w/in the budget we set for our selves for that day) and SD9 sees an advertisement for an amusement park that we have taken them to in the past. She asks, is that park no longer open? Stupidly, I say yes, its still open... SD9 then asks.. then WHY havent you taken us yet this summer??? I was flabbergasted.. we just spend almost $200 on them and she is asking WHY we hadnt taken her to an amusement park yet. I pointed out that they have been busy all summer, visiting their grandparents for a couple of weeks, and we have taken them other places.. She then asks.. so when are you taking us this year? I said we arent. (had to be blunt, we are NOT made of $$) I said, we picked out the things we wanted to do w/you guys this year, and that just didnt make the cut... we have a lot of other things going on, AND we just took you to Disney last summer (which is 100 times better than this place she wants to go). Soooo... at the end of this all day event, I get no thanks, but a look toward something MORE.

The next day we took the skids swimming (this was free).. we planned on eating lunch first, so that we wouldnt have to buy food especially after having to buy lunch and dinner out the day before. DH calls the skids down, and we get.. but I am not hungry. DH says (thankfully) its now or never. We are NOT bringing any $$ to swimming and we cant pack this lunch. So the skids sit down and eat. Then we go swimming and bring their friend. After we go home and its time to pick up their rooms. They get them picked up, the bm calls and says she will be in our area, if we meet her, we dont have to drive to her place. DH says great, we will feed them, as we had promised them a fun meal, and its agreed. DH gets off of the phone and says ss9 you hungry? (not sure WHY he asks) SS9 that now knows that we are eating 1/2 hr earlier to have his mom get him says.. NO.. i am not hungry. DH (thank god) is on to this control game and says.. let me get this straight. You asked for food non stop yesterday, and now all of a sudden you are not hungry? SS9 just glares at him... not wavering. So I chime in, that is ok ss9, if your not hungry, you can eat w/mommy, but the rest of us are eating before we head out... your choice.

We of course ate, and then ss9 was asking dh for bites of his food. THIS irratates me, as we gave them the same amount as us.. AND remember.. he wasnt hungry.

Sooooo.. All in all, it was an interesting weekend. I think it comes down to my ss9 is unhappy w/his living arrangements. DH thinks BM doesnt like men and that includes her son. We have heard stories from ss9 as well as stories he related to his grandmother that his sister is the favored child in the family.. and why not, she is turning into her.

I know I read a couple other posts on here today w/people that have skids that keep trying to spend the little money they have. I know growing up I was THANKFUL if my parents took me somewhere, and I didnt ask to go places. Anyone else feel the same way?