OK so I have posted before the unacceptable child care issue. SS7 is staying every other week this summer with his just turned 13 step sister, her 2 sisters and his 18 mth old brother. We have expressed concerns to BM about it and she says H is stupid and nothing is ever going to happen.

Well yesterday was our weekly night visit. SS was VERY excited to see his dad and go with him. Far cry from Friday night. Anyway BM told H to just drop SS off at his other sitter in the morning and that SS knew where it was. So this morning H dropped of SS and then called me to let me know about it because we have never met this sitter or even knew where she lived. H's first words were it is not good. He said first off the yard was full of junk and tall grass. He said generators, lumber and other construction things were laying around. Very unsafe area for children to be out playing in. So he knocks on the door and rings the doorbell and it takes like 5 minutes for someone to come to the door. H did not go in the house but he said he saw more than he wanted to see when she opened the door. He said things were pilled up everywhere. He said it looked nasty and did not smell that great either. Now we believe that SS7 and his 18mth old brother are the only 2 kids that she keeps besides her own and a couple cousins. I think the sitter has 2 high school kids one in middle and then a couple cousins about SS's age maybe little older. Now no doubt the lady is not licensed as I have worked in child care before and there is no way the state would say that is a safe environment for children to be in as far as the construction equipment strolled through the yard and the house being dirty as it was.

I feel so bad so H because he pays her so much for him. When we go back to court even if we do not get the week at a time the MONTHLY child support obligation will be less than what she gets for 1 WEEK now so that is going to hurt her pocket. Anyway he pays he good money for hos 1/2 of things while SS is with her and he is so disheartened by the fact that his son has to go to a sitter like that or stay with a girl barely 13 and have little to no food to eat. What is wrong with BM? We also cannot believe that BM let H drop SS off at this sitter cause BM knows how H is and knows H will have something to say about it. H asked me why does she not look for something else? I said she does not look for another sitter cause this one is 3/4 of a mile from her house and probably cheap. I just do not understand your children are one of the most prized possesions that you have why would you leave them somewhere that is nasty and unsafe? I cannot believe that BM's boyfriend allows his 18mth old son to go there. So H is left asking just what does my child support go for. He comes out to the house looking like crap in ragged clothes, claims he has nothing to eat when the girls are there keeping him. She has never taken him on a vacation or even to the local swimming pool. She takes them to the creek to swim so they do not have to pay.

My question to all of you is should H say something to BM about the sitter he dropped SS off at today or should he just document it and address when we go to court that he wants SS to be placed in a licensed day care? SS has said that the lady is nice and no doubt that is very important that she be good to SS but the other matters as well.

On another note SS read BM the letter he wrote about how he loved her and his dad and how they were good parents and both his family and how he loved both home. I asked SS what did she say to the letter and he said she got smart with him and told him that he should not be writing that crap!

Please all of you pray for my SS and us! I do not want him to become and angry person because of the way things are with his mom and how she does him when it comes to us...sigh I am at a loss!