SS called to talk to BF yesterday. Apparently he has a sore throat and doesn't want to come on visitation this weekend (so we're starting this again it seems). Well, BM offered to let BF have him next weekend to make up for it, meaning that we'd have him two weekends in a row. We can't do that, though, because we already have plans to be out of town next weekend. BF suggested that maybe he could have SS three weeks from now, meaning he'd have SS three weekends in a row. This wasn't acceptable to BM. Why not? I must ask. She gets SS three weekends in a row since he's not coming this weekend. Oh yeah, plus the fact that school's out and she doesn't work, so he's with her every day of the week too...Why is it not acceptable that BF see SS three weekends in a row?

On top of that...SS was born with a skull deformity, and during genetic counseling we were told that depending on the reason (genetic or spontaneous) of SS's skull deformity, we had between a 1 and 50% chance of our baby having this deformity. BF signed a release so that they could get the records from SS's genetic testing from when he was a baby so we could get more information. We found out that SS was tested for three of the four genes that are linked to this deformity, and all of them were negative (suprising, BM has been trying to tell me that they said it was genetic and came from BF...bitch). The fourth was not discovered until the late 90's after he was born. They said they'd happily test SS for the fourth and final gene to completely rule out genetics if we wanted. BF and I both knew that BM would say no, but he asked anyway. She, of course, said no. He just said, "Well that's ok, we all knew you'd say that anyway." She asked who he meant by that. "Oh...Nymh, me, the doctors, the genetic counselor...they've all worked with you before and we were all pretty sure that you'd be difficult, but we figured we'd give it a shot anyway. We have it narrowed down to a 2-5% chance but we thought that you'd cooperate in helping us getting it down to 0%. But don't worry, we'll just live with the 2-5% chance."

He said she was pretty speechless after that. Then she said, "Well, if it'll make the difference in the health of Nymh's baby (notice she pointed out it was my baby, not his...) then I'll consider it." He just told her not to worry about it.