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Submitted by frustratedinMA on Thu, 04/24/2008 - 8:47am

I brought up the subject again last night, and dh has agreed that we should do what would be in the best interest of any future child that we have, and that we would reprioritize the rooms.

I grabbed my handi dandy little tape measure and was measuring off stuff to get a better idea of how we should shuffle things around in the small 3 bedrooms.

I was extremely happy that he is considering the safety and well being of our future children. So now I have a plan. Now all I need to do is get pregnant. I just wish it was as easy as it is said!!

Wish us luck!!!

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Submitted by frustrated like... on Thu, 04/24/2008 - 9:39am

you're a great negotiator!! and yes, have fun baby making Smile

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Submitted by frustratedinMA on Thu, 04/24/2008 - 10:06am

lol.. He KNOWS I dont forget a word of any conversation I have ever had w/him. He hates that trait about me.. and has been quoted as saying, if she is saying I said that, then she is probably correct. She doesnt forget A THING!!

I wish I could ask for it in writing.. just think that would cause issues!! lol Can you see me know.. Hi.. can you just sign right here?? ummm.. that is acknowledging that you said yes, our child could have his/her own room and that the skids would share a room for their visits.

LOL!!!

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Submitted by ColorMeGone2 on Thu, 04/24/2008 - 11:21am

Great advice! We do this with BM all the time!

♥ Georgia, the un-stepmom ♥

"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)

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Submitted by ColorMeGone2 on Thu, 04/24/2008 - 10:06am

That's great! I'm happy for the positive outcome!

♥ Georgia, the un-stepmom ♥

"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)

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Submitted by frustratedinMA on Thu, 04/24/2008 - 10:06am

Oh.. and we have gone from the fun part, to the getting help from professionals, so its not always as fun as it should be!!! ; )

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Submitted by Stepmom_C on Thu, 04/24/2008 - 11:49am

I'm in the same situation... visiting with professionals Wink
Good luck to you! Glad the conversation went well.

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Thu, 04/24/2008 - 10:30am

I think it is great your husband has been able to avoid feeling defensive and focus on what is best for ALL the children (current and future). Good luck on having a baby of your very own!

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Submitted by frustratedinMA on Thu, 04/24/2008 - 10:59am

Stepping..

OMG.. you are GOOD!! I would have never thought about that.

I am on it!!! I am going to send him an email now and then save that puppy for the future.

I need to get better at crap like this!!!

Thank you again everyone.. I cant tell you how much it helps and how sane I can stay knowing that there are other people out there that agree w/how things should be.. and how they shouldnt!!!

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Submitted by frustrated like... on Thu, 04/24/2008 - 2:34pm

i read and read and read and go home and share some of the topics on here with BF. it's really been great. helps us to start a great discussion and there are so many topics and issues that i read on here that i would have never thought about before...it's funny too because if i dont say anything to him about what i've read for a few days..he's like "hello, nothing interesting to talk about from step talk?" it is great here because everyone is in different stages of step parenting and you really get some great advice that comes along with all of that wisdom from actually going through it first hand.

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Submitted by frustratedinMA on Thu, 04/24/2008 - 2:45pm

Seriously.. some of the topics I have brought up are directly from reading these blogs.. We then work on how we would respond if the situation arises.

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Submitted by frustrated like... on Thu, 04/24/2008 - 3:11pm

it becomes a hypothetical situation and then we go from there. your issue yesterday with the kids rooms lead to a great conversation about whether he would have the same view as your DH or not. actually, he started out saying that he felt his daughter should keep her own room and by the end of the discussion/negotiation as you call it, he totally understood your point (and my point too)...should of got it on tape though...lol..we're a long ways away from planning children.

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Submitted by frustratedinMA on Thu, 04/24/2008 - 3:18pm

That is great..

Funny how they dont see these things clearly at first!! And I swear its because men dont get kids til they are actually born.. where as women think of the pregnancy as a child already there.. from the minute of conception.