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SoontobeWifeandMom's picture

Submitted by SoontobeWifeandMom on Wed, 04/09/2008 - 9:23pm

Okay so I'm following up on some really great advice and BM is no longer going to be allowed in my house. However I was wondering what was the best way to go about this? Should we meet at a neutral location or just outside the house. I was thinking maybe having SD play outside when BM is on her way over so it doesn't really look like we are forbidding her from being inside. I really don't want to tell her that but would it be best she knows?

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Lost Darter's picture

Submitted by Lost Darter on Wed, 04/09/2008 - 9:50pm

I had to insist that DH have a talk with BM. It is my home too! I have the right to have my own space. DH was very receptive. BM is no longer allowed to come into the house. I wold also like to state that I have never been allowed into BM's home.

Sia's picture

Submitted by Sia on Thu, 04/10/2008 - 7:59am

that you dont want her in the house and why. Then tell him it is his job to fix it. Is there any reason she has to come to the door at all? After I told the stupid BM to stay the hell away from me, she won't even get out of the car if she has to come by here. Funny. She just sits in the car and if we don't see her, she will call from her cell phone. hehehehe It is DH's job to recitify this, not yours. However, if he doesn't, put a foot in his ass and hers! }:)

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Submitted by bellacita on Thu, 04/10/2008 - 8:12am

trust me from experience...after several confrontations at exchanges, she agreed to stay on the street. that worked for about 2 months then the other day she started more drama and ended up pushing her way up to the door while FH kept asking her to back away...on our front porch called me names, and FSD saw the whole thing. now they meet at McDonalds...may be silly, but this way, she cant start drama. do it for yourself...trust me. staying in the driveway or outside will only work for so long.

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Submitted by steppie1999 on Thu, 04/10/2008 - 8:20am

Have SD ready and don't answer the door until SD is ready to go out....then BM doesn't have a chance to come in. Or, if you answer the door, don't open it far, and stand in the opening with your hand still on the door....Kinda like you'd do with a salesman....your body language should speak volumes. Otherwise, I agree with everyone else, let DH tell BM she is not welcome to come in.
"SOME PEOPLE WEREN'T MEANT TO HAVE CHILDREN" Sad

workinonit's picture

Submitted by workinonit on Thu, 04/10/2008 - 9:17am

Pick a neutral location and stick with it. It helps to avoid many problems.

bellacita's picture

Submitted by bellacita on Thu, 04/10/2008 - 10:08am

we have to go to her house to pick her up so meeting in the middle isnt an inconvenience and its so worth not having that bitch anywhere near my home after all the drama shes caused! your situation might be different but at any rate, u let yr DH handle it bc its not yr responsibility to deal w her.