Is to pay a fair amount, get to see the skids when we're supposed to and not have to deal with bullshit from BM. And that is exactly how it NOW works in my situation, except for getting to see the skids. Wasn't always that way, but it is now. We've been pretty much drama-free for about two years now, with minor flare-ups maybe once or twice a year. After a nasty court battle, the CS is now set at a reasonable amount. BM leaves us alone and we leave her alone. Except for passing along things like change of address, insurance information, etc., we have no contact with BM. Unfortunately, we also don't get to spend that much time with the skids, but when a father is made to walk barefoot on glass just to talk to his kids on the phone and then they don't have more than two words to say to him, well, he gets to where making the effort hurts more than just not seeing them.

♥ Georgia ♥

"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)

I would take less CS to have to deal with the ex less! Everytime he gets angry at me he brings up money. WAA WAA WAA WAA cry me a river! What he pays is not nearly enough but I don't complain cause the fights are not worth all the crap that comes with it all.

all I want is fairness. I want to pay the FAIR amount and see the kids a FAIR amount of the time. I want DH to be treated FAIRLY and his opinion taken into account when making decisions. But in my case, defining FAIR is almost impossible with a BM who suffers from bipolar disorder.

I don't want to pay more or less for anything. I want DH to compensate BM by what is deemed fair by the state not by what BM's jaded perception of how much she is "owed".

"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."

we could pay any more, we are flat *ss broke all the time now - I would rather have the child really!

"Fortune favors the brave" - Virgil