Family Counseling
A week ago, BM sends DH an email saying that she has arranged for the kids to attend family counseling and if DH wanted he was wellcome to attend as well. He replied immediately saying that he was 100% on board and he asked about the name of the therapist, when are the sessions scheduled and if BM would be so kind to let him know in advance and also if possible to arrange with his calendar as well. She responds the next day giving the name of the therapist, the city of her practice and tells DH that she is arranging with the therapist schedule and not his.
Two days later, DH writes again asking when the sessions are to occur and some other details basically to let him know as soon as possible so if need be he can cancel or reschedule his professional meetings. She responds on Monday saying that the counceling is for the kids and their schedule is all that matters, but again we didn't get any day or time for the sessions. We just found out today that she took the kids to counceling on Monday. WHAT DO WE DO??????
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Find out the name of the counselor...
AND CALL THEM RIGHT AWAY!
DH called...
twice...even before Monday. Since BM was not telling us the day and time he called the counselor but he never got a call back.
Well in that case...
Show up to the office and MAKE an appointment to see the therapist...
Man has the intelligence to change his life,
Sometimes, he just fails to use it...
Um...
Do you have the Therapist's number? I'd call up the office and ask them when the next appointment is and ask them if they could give you a courtesy call on the next one. Then, from there, you'll know when the next appointment is, attend it, or call them for the next date. If BM is going to play hard ball with you, cut her out of it, and contact the office directly to get the information you need from the horses mouth. This is only an attempt to control the issue.
Second, you have to ask yourself, why is she back pedaling now? Probably because she's scared of the outcome. That's genuinely the reason for elusive behavior. So, cut her out of the picture, and make your own efforts to stay contacted with this office. In fact, I'd make a point to make a SEPARATE appointment with the therapist for an introduction if possible.
Man has the intelligence to change his life,
Sometimes, he just fails to use it...
Thank you....
...I think she might have told the therapist that she is not to give details about her appointments to anyone....I don't know how it works. But your suggestions sound great - I will tell DH to make an appointment to intoduce himself.