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My husbands ex-wife is trying to hurt my son in an effort to hurt my husband. She has recently called DFS and reported that he is some kind of sexual predator. They even investigated my son at his school and embrassed him beyond belief. He was of course found to be not guilty of any of the crap charges she claimed, but how bitter can one get. Attacking an innocent child because you have a long held grudge with an ex-husband. It's just wrong and disgusting. How can I protect my kids and still have a relationship with his?
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That's horrible....
My BM never sunk that low. I seriously think that I would be reduced to throwing blows if she ever did that to one of my sons. How old is your son? I hope he's old enough to understand that it is only the desperate efforts of a horrible person.
Horrible is an understatement
Yes - my son is 13, but I am afraid of it happening again. It could potentially screw him up you know. I'm really angry right now. I have been for weeks. Angry at her, angry at the SS and angry with my husband. How do I continue a relationship with the SS and protect mine at the same time?
I wish I could answer that....
But I don't have advice on that one. There are some things I would not put up with and that might just have to be one of them. It's one thing to drag us SMs into the middle of it but this Mama Bear would go ballistic if she did something to affect my boys.
How do you deal?
I don't know how I have even come this far. Seven years of putting up with this women's crap is really starting to grind on my nerves. But attacking my kid that calls for action. I'm not sure what to do. I really don't want to see my SS ever again at this point.
Are you "hurtingfornow"
Are you "hurtingfornow" wife. If so, glad to have you here to vent. If not, you two should chat. Sounds like similar stories. Terrible terrible shit. However, it's not the ss fault that his mom is doing hateful things. He will be screwed up too. I have no answers for this. Maybe prayer. I'm sorry for you. I hope some other people have better advice for you.
Kathleen
Okaaayyy
I thought the same thing when I read this. Hurtingfornow has some sad stuff going on.. I was hoping that he referred her here.. He seems to really love his wife but at a lose for dealing with it. Yet I can totally relate to his wifes behavior without truly knowing her side.. if that makes sense.
to bbangle.. whether you are are not hurtingfornow's wife ... you two need to talk, you appear to have the same perspective as his wife's and he is here to trying to understand... Best of wishes to you both... your situations involve a lot more than the usually blending STUFF!!!
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slander
Sue her for slander. See an attorney for a free consultation, but you've got to have proof that she did it.
paying for counseling
There are many avenues to fine affordable counseling. One place that is amazing, and you don't need to be of any faith is through a Jewish Community Center in your town. Also we go to our youth counselor at our church for family counseling. There are many sliding scale therapy centers. I'm not Jewish but they have some of the most comprehensive community support groups that I have ever seen. They let anyone in. Anyone who needs support but can't afford it, just needs to look further. It is there. I should change my user name to the biggest fan of counseling.
Thanks for your support
Thank you to everyone who has commented. I really really appreciate all the advice and similar stories. I will definately be talking with hurtingfornow, but no I'm not his wife. My hubby is trying really hard to recognize the seriousness of the situation but it's hard for him. I wish this was easier, but after 7 years of this I don't think it's going to get any easier. I have thought about sueing her for slander but I really think it would only hurt my SS. I don't want that he goes through enough with his cruel BM. Again Hugs to all of you.
Hurtingfornow if you are out there...
HMMMm I don't know what happened to hurtingfornow's post.. I was going to bump it up for you to review.. If anyone else is more savvy could you bump it up?
I would
I would sue her for slander anyway. While I understand it would hurt SS I'm sure BS was extremely hurt by being humiliated like he was. While I'm all for not hurting the SK because it truly isn't their fault that their BM is a loony...you still need to protect BS. You also don't want him (BS) to think that you aren't willing to protect him just to protect SS or his mother.
Other people may not share my opinion but it is what it is. I would go see an attorney asap....if nothing else BS deserves some sort of vindication.
Some people are like slinkies...not really good for anything but they bring a smile to your face when pushed down the stairs!
I See your point
and agree to an extent. I've already seen an attorney and he happens to agree. I need to just put my big girl panties on and go for it.
Let us know how it goes.....
Some people are like slinkies...not really good for anything but they bring a smile to your face when pushed down the stairs!