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Submitted by QUINJAI3 on Thu, 10/04/2007 - 12:19am

well to add insult to injury, hubby rang on his lunch break and i expressed how i felt about his brothers stupid wedding invite and told him basicly if these poeple ( i use that term lightly) will not talk to us i will not let them talk to our children sd included and that we will not attend the event well hubby said yes i understand but i'm going to go so i asked why and he said because it is expected.

can you friggin believe that after all these shithead people have done to him and he is still going to celebrate with them like the last year has been nothing!!! i let hubby have it i am so sick of hubby being that afraid of confrontations that he rather be a door mat then to stand up for himself and that his family keep being pigheaded, anul retentive, bastards and him be okay with that. as if family treats one another like that i think its complete bs.

grrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!! i just want to scream, rip all their heads off and use them as bowling balls, those bastards

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Submitted by Catch22 on Thu, 10/04/2007 - 6:33am

I haven't yet read your blogs to get the whole story but we no longer see or speak to my DH's 2 brothers either. When we were going through a very hard time with SS not wanting to see us because he didn't want me and my kids sharing his dad, his brothers turned around and told us that if they didn't see SS here then they would go see BM and ask her if they could see SS there. DH threantened to disown them but they went ahead and did it anyway, hurt Dh and helped BM on her mission to destroy my DH's relatioship with his son.

Well, it is almost 6 months now since we have spoken to them or seen them, but they don't see us or our kids and now that SS is back here almost every weekend, it seems they don't see him either. Serves them right for being thoughtless pigs, I reckon!! So I don't know the reasons for your dilema yet, but in laws and siblings can play havoc in your life and if your DH isn't backing you and allowing them to walk over him, then I completely understand how you feel, been there done that, hope DH doesn't back down like he usually does and we won't have to do it again Smile
Good luck with this one it's a nasty road, especially if like me, you have a huge in law family :sick:

Catch xx
*Mean People Suck*

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Submitted by kathleen on Thu, 10/04/2007 - 7:45am

My comments might not be popular. I do understand how you feel. For years we were having problems with the BM and the poor kids were in the middle of it. My husbands family wanted to keep peace so they were sooooo frickin nice to BM. All hugs and come in for dinner type of thing. I remember telling my Sister in law once that she was betraying her brother by acting this way towards BM. She obviously, in my opinion needed to take a side.

Well lots of trying days, arguments, estrangements etc. We were not any better off. For the sake of the kids and for all of us, proving "right, or wrong" and hanging on to old grudges doesn't help. I would rather make peace than to perpetuate a feud.

Obviously they are in touch with BM, and they love their neice, your SD and your husbands daughter. That is a good thing. A very good thing to be loved by both sides of the family. It doesn't feel right to you, and I understand that feeling.

I say: Help the little girl feel good about her role as a flower girl. Link arms with your husband and arrive as a united front. Spend more then you would on a beautiful dress and get your hair and nails done. Then show up with a big smile on your face. Greet everyone politely, say congratulations to the bride/groom. Eat the food, drink their wine, dance with your husband, renew your vows to each other as you listen to theirs. Then scoop up this little girl and your other children, laughing and loving on each other and go home.

You will come off smelling like ROSES and the kids will know nothing but that they feel great and they have such wonderful parents!!!!

So, it is not the way you think it should be, and you are hurt. I empathize. I really do. I know the feeling. This is one of those times when you walk like Jesus, as he would. You don't even have to be religious to think that way. He is a man who's actions and kindness led the world, saved lives and still does. Walk in those shoes and you will rise above.

Sometimes the hardest things to do are the best for all of us.

Let me know what happens and good luck.