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Submitted by he calls me mommy on Fri, 04/06/2007 - 11:07am

my step son started calling me mommy not too long ago. his reasoning was you take care of me and make sure that i am happy and that makes you my mommy. i didnt think it would matter. we had a discussion where i told him that he could call me whatever he was most comfortable with. out of the blue unaided he started calling me mommy. and you know what? it made my heart swell. it felt really good. i wouldnt have cared what he called me but i am glad he chopse that.

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Submitted by ccbj on Fri, 04/06/2007 - 12:21pm

OK, I'm jealous. He must be little

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Submitted by he calls me mommy on Fri, 04/06/2007 - 1:04pm

my stepson is 8. we just went to mediation and the mediator proceeded to tell biomom that she wasnt getting custody of him, wasnt even getting supervised visits and was going to have to have therapuetic visits and that the light just may never go on for her.my stepson is an awesome little guy.he is so strong and brave. thanks for the replys you guys.

i take care of yours; respect me!

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Submitted by Cruella (not verified) on Fri, 04/06/2007 - 4:40pm

My SD has taken it upon herself to call me Mommy sometimes. I told her she can call me anything she feels comfortable calling me. I just told her just not to hurt her Mommy's feelings calling me Mommy. She said she didn't care.

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Submitted by septembers_child on Sat, 04/07/2007 - 4:43am

Under those conditions I think him calling you "mommy" if he wants to is appropriate...Same situation with the egg donar of my SD..I raise her 24/7/365, her BM has no custody and no visitation rights and she hasn't heard from her is six years...In my book she is the Egg Donar and I do everything that being the "mom" entails...Same situation for you.

I have witnessed situations in which I thought it was inappropriate and disrespectful for step children to call their step parent mom or dad and should be discouraged from doing so in certain situations..Such as when the BIO parent is still totally involved in and with the child. I just think that is crossing a boundary that shouldn't be crossed..

For instance, my exhusband married my ex best friend who is also our ex sister in law. She was married to x hubby's little brother and they had my nephew together..Her and my husband got married (yuk) and my 12 year old was then expected to call HIS UNCLE..."Dad"...(It makes me sick to my stomach to hear my precious nephew being forced to call his Uncle "dad".)

Generally, I think that if both bio parents are active parts of the childrens lives, then calling a step parent mom or dad is inappropriate..

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Submitted by Cruella (not verified) on Tue, 04/10/2007 - 7:08am

I don't care if they call me Mommy or by my first name. It really makes no difference to me because I am secure in my relationship with them. The Skids knows who is there for them and who is the real Mom. The BM didn't like the kids calling me step mom. None of her damn business in my opinion. Since she abandoned the kids and only has them 2 months out of the year she should be happy that someone is there for them. Her opinion is not even a consideration in our home since she is so disrespectful of my husband. The kids call my parents Nana and Pop. She doesn't like that either however her family has had no contact with the children over the years. My parents are there for them and they know it. It is all about knowing who you are to the kids and knowing that the word "Mom" is only a title.