the exs do they have to make life so unbearable
Ok, so here is my situation....I have 2 bio boys and my bf has a daughter. We have his daughter every Wed and every other weekend during the school yr. and every other week during the summer. Here is some of my issues....His ex refuses to act like I exist when we began seeing one another he was still hoping to get back with his ex but was begining to understand that she wasn't coming back....I told him to try and get her back and she pretty well slammed the door in his face. So he ask me to stay around and just give him time and I did that well needless to say the feelings for her that were still trying to linger have now turned to hate toward her(she became pregant by her "friend") she denies the affair they were just friends
So needless to say we have started a life together but she still tries to make everything so difficult like pick up and drop offs if something happens and my fiance' has to work late I am forbidden to pick the child up she says that if I pull into pick her up by myself she will turn around and leave with her. He is the only person aloud to pick her up unless it is arranged ahead of time for his parents to pick her up.
The woman will not communicate with me what so ever we have never even spoken to one another when she calls the house (witch is seldom to never) I won't even answer the phone because she will just hang up if I do. Does she not relize the only person she is hurting by behaving like this is her daughter??? I even tried writing her a letter since she won't speak to me but got no response from it.
It seems like he won't say anything to her about it he pretty much just lets her do what ever she wants He says he does it to make it easier on him I think he does it because he doesn't want to "upset" Ms. Wonderful. I get so mad I could just scream.
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Hah! I remember those days! Mic used to think that enough brown-nosing and ass-kissing would get him cooperation and smooth sailing. But the truth is she didn't want him to be happy, and no amount of ass-kissing can ever change that. He quickly found that even when he went out of his way for visitation, etc. that the result was the same. I mean, sure- she got mad and retaliated when she realized her doormat had been replaced by a man, but if she wasn't mad about that, she'd be mad about something else. He started sticking to his guns, things are much more consistant for his son, and everyone is better for it, except her. The bottom line is that your gal will always have something to be mean about, if she's one of those. You should not expect her to communicate with you, though. This can be a blessing in disguise. I often think to myself how great it would be for ss to have 4 cooperating parents who discuss his academics, activities, etc. who all work together to teach him and guide him. But the truth is, this woman is psycho, and if we talked, I would end up assaulting her. So it's better that we don't. There's no talking to some people. I'm a little worried, though, for you to be with someone that only stopped loving another person because they got pregnant with someone else...it really sounds like he's not over it, hence the continued ass-kissing. If he's really over it, he will do what is in the best interests of the child, including respecting the child's rights to see their father, without a bunch of BS from the mom. In terms of transportation, let that one go for now. But if he won't stop walking on eggshells for her, I'd walk out the door. But that's just me.
the bond between my fiance'
the bond between my fiance' and I began before the whole pregnancy he had already given up on them. He just really relized what a b**ch she really was when she became pregnant. Your right on the whole unable to talk to some people. I figure all we can do is make sure sd is picked up on time and taken care of when we have her and hope for the best when she is with ms.wonderful(so she thinks)She is always going to be pissed off because she thought she could have BF on a string and pull him along and then what do you know but I popped in the picture and he finally woke up and relized some of what she is doing. Thank you for your response it feels so good to talk to those who understand.
That's why we are here.
In the ideal world, the BM's would accept their mistakes, move on with their personal lives, communicate cordially with OUR BF/DH. Acknowledge the fact that WE exsist. Respect US for caring about their child. And then, we could all play nice in the sand box.
DBS made me laugh when she said she is glad she doen't talk to BM.
"and if we did talk, I would end up assulting her" LOL
I feel the same.
Hang in there.
I see it this way
If BIOs got along so great they wouldnt be freaking divorced, so how in the hell am I expected to get along and have such a great relationship with the same person YOUR Behind couldn't get along with? Just my opinion, I don't even care to breathe the same natural air as my hubby's ex more or less bring her into my perfect bubble of a world with convo!!!!
"Be there for the joy. Be there for the tears. Be there for each other."
(Step-Mom the Movie 1998)
hahahahaha
that is one funny sight in my head to my goodness that sand box is crazy
I think it is in their
I think it is in their biological makeup....they are miserable so they try to force that on everyone else. Especially DH's new fmaily because they can't stand the fact that they are happy!!!!!!