Ok so im 20 years old and my bf/fiance is 26. He has two beautiful little girls the ages of 7 and 4. they currently live with there mother about 80 miles away from us. Recently we just found out that we are 5 weeks preg. with my first and his third child. When i met my fiance he was seperated and finally with my help got an attorney and started the divorce. First of all we started the divorce in august of 2006 and are still not through ! for several differnt reasons that i just dont have the patience to type. The problem we are having is that the Baby mama ( BM) wont leave us alone. She is only allowed to contact us thru email. and she even harrasses us through that. then we dont give her a main contact number only a relative that can reach us through an emergency. but she insists on calling his realatives constantly and no one want to be mean to her for fear that she would tell or ifluence the children to not " love" them. Not only that uses us as a defense against the children. If she cant make them mind she says " im going to call your daddy " " do u want me to have to call him " like hes some kind of tyrant. the thing is that when we went to cour she agreed that she wanted the kids " full timeE" and that we would share custody and we would have the kids on the e/o weekend. But now she wants my fiance to call and get onto the kids for not minding her. and i think that she should make them mind herself she she is the one who said that she can do it.. she can take care of them all by herself. so let her. shes the mom she shouldnt be calling us for discpline she should do this on her own . Im at my witts end with her. i wish she was out of my life. but i just dont know what to do anymore every line or boundary we set she just pushes and crosses , she dosent even respect the divorce papers. What do i do with her ?

LW