I'm sorry, but WOW! This is like the total opposite of most of the posts here... because the majority of us here are really just trying to get along for the sake of the kids... for the most part. So, I'm sorry you feel the way you do, but it's like BIOMOM said... I guess we need more clarification...

I too am alittle confused.

I am new and just have been reading posts every other day but I am ready to jump in.
I to am a little confused as to why you are so angry with the ex. I feel sad for the kids who obviously are missing out on their father who basically dumped them. Maybe you could tell us what she has done to you that is so horrible.

Frankly, I'm still trying to figure out how it is that you think SHE is the unstable one. You said, "Doesn't she see that I don't want them in his life." Hmmm. Did you not know that he had a wife and children when you got involved with him? Were you expecting him to abandon his children for you? Do you have any idea how selfish, unrealistic and just plain blackhearted that is?

Reasons why most of us are here:
(1) Support in helping our spouses raise their children from other marriages/relationships.
(2) Advice for building a working relationship with the children's other biological parent, usually the BM.
(3) Advice and support in building our relationships with our spouse's children, finding our way to being a good stepparent.
(4) A place to vent so that we don't let our anger spill over into our relationships with our spouses and their children.

You see, we are trying to find ways to KEEP the kids in our spouses' lives, not run them out. We are trying to find ways to peacefully co-exist with the ex, not screw up their lives. We're trying to make our marriages/relationships stronger by learning how to accept our spouses' other children, not by trying to alienate them from him.

You have a husband who has children. Those children have a right to their father, their father has a right to them, their BM has a right to expect his participation in their lives and you have ZERO RIGHT to deny any of them that relationship.

I'd give anything if my skids' biomom was stand-up enough to keep him posted about the kids. My advice to you is to leave her alone and stop interfering in your husband's relationship with his children. Try encouraging that relationship, instead. And as for trying to have her fired and getting thrown out of her home... are you actually PROUD of this?! Can we say PSYCHO?!

~ Anne ~

Really, you can't be serious. If you are, you've got some major issues. But I'm pretty sure you're just making this crap up.

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

heard anyone admit what was just admitted here. I guess it's good that you are honest about what's inside you. It just seems like what's inside is pretty ugly. This has to be some kind of joke.

How is the BM hateful? With all you said, it sounds like you are the hateful one....and for what reason exactly?

Woman, you need some help if this post is for real. If this is true I think you're a home-wrecking, hateful woman, maybe insane! How dare you come between him and his family and say she's the one with the problem!!

I hope to not see another post from you, that's for sure.

If you try to make her loose her house - the kids are gonna come live with you! Then you can be Mommie. Then you can plug yourself into her role as wife & mother. That's what's wrong with you, isn't it. You are seething with jealousy over this woman because she had everything you ever wanted; a healthy relationship, education, success, family, stablility, securtiy.
People like you just want everyone else to be as miserable as you are.
I wonder how long it will be before your anger and resentment lead you to another affair. Betrail, anger, and lies are what make you feel alive.

Get over yourself.

Guys [girls], I wouldn't get so upset about this post if I were you. It's obviously fake. It's the only material written by the author on this site, and was written immediately after they became a member. Notice that she hasn't posted any responses to us pointing out how ridiculous her rationale is, either.

I wonder what would drive someone to post a counterfeit blog entry such as this one on this particular site. Upon first reading it, I immediately knew it was a farce, but I also had the snap judgement that the person behind the act might be someone jealous or bitter toward a stepmom or current wife of their ex. I immediately had the thought that if BM in my situation found her way to this site and knew I might be here, upon reading posts written about her or other biomoms she might get angry that things which she has said or done had been pointed out to be uncalled for, immature, inconsiderate, etc. She might post something like this to get a rise out of me or all of us, out of anger and embarrassment. It is a common staple of cowards to post anonymous comments of dissent about things with which they disagree.

I don't think that this post is legitimate at all. On the contrary, I believe that it is an insult in disguise to all of us stepmothers and second (or third or fourth) wives who are here to try to make things better, healthier, and easier on everyone whose lives we have an influence.

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

I think your right ....Nymh!
It sounds like what a resentful first wife/GF might say....pretending to be a step-mom. I do detect a hint of sarcasm......and irony.

(How dare 'a step' have issues with a first wife after everything evil the 'steps' have done to the poor 1st wife....who has done nothing but 'move on with her life'.....)

Gimme a BREAK!!!!

The statments are not very believable as something that would come from any step trying to legitatmitly deal with true issues.....

It's too far out there.......

PS
It sounds like someone 'making fun' of our 'issues'..... they've just gathered them all up into one package.

Trying to make US look like, rediculous, petty, 'evil', 'untable' woman.......and the previous X's all look like saints.

....."THE NERVE"......

PSS
If that's the case, the poster is obviously lacking in 'reading comprehension' skills ...because she has missed the point in our posts. Most times...we are not the 'instagators' in these conflicts We are careing individuals who find ourselves in complex situations with little experience or knowledge of and lack guildelines or direction or ideas on how to deal with the stresses that our unique family dynamic presents to us.

Duh...the light-bulb just went on!!!

I wonder if this is the 'annonymous' poster...that has lurking and posting lately... the one who refers to anyone whose relationship stated before the divorce was final ....as "morally challenged folk"..

I remember asking her..if that happened to her (husband left her for another woman..type scenario).....because it sounded like she had some serious issues...... hhhhmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

I think she is 'digging at'..... just one person, too.
Is it someone on this site?..or in her own world?
Is she just using this site to get it off her chest?

In my opinion this is written by a BIO-MOM who has ran across this site and for her own crazy reasons wants to feel that all we do is BASH Bio-MOMs all day long. When if she really read this site she would see that more than half of us are BIO-MOMs and Step-Moms, so bashing all BIO-MOMS we would be bashing ourselves. This is a venting board for all of those crazy things that First Wives, Ex-Girlfriends, Mother in Laws who can't let go, crazy grown step-children, and even not so quick to move current hubby's do. We don't have time to sit around nor do we want to sit and just talk about people, but it is awfully funny how we all do have one thing in common.
This is a joke ladies I would not even give it anymore thought. It just shows once again how crazy and extreme the actions THEY will take to make it appear that WE (Step Moms, current wives, current girlfriends) are.

"Be there for the joy. Be there for the tears. Be there for each other."
(Step-Mom the Movie 1998)

I don't believe I have ever heard anything so pathetic.You cannot keep the father from communicating with his children, to hinder that could be devistating to his children, and could end up costing you your relationship with him. Any man in his right mind would never let ANY woman come between he & his children....are you angry because she had him first???, Meshel

Let me get this straight.. Ex left while you were having an affair with her husband??? Sounds to me like she bowed out gracefully while you destroyed her family...
Sounds like it bothers you that she informs him about the kids that he never talks to...His only contact is that he sends money to support them.I think you are a very selfish in not wanting him to hear about his kids..
It sounds to me that YOU are the unstable one in this equation.
Is it possible that he is so intimidated by you that he avoids having contact with his kids? Maybe he can't stand to hear you rant and rave when he has communication with them...
You dont say if you have any kids of your own but it sounds like you couldnt possibly be a mother.
Be careful how you express yourself ... this man may leave you too...
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