i have been married for a little over four years and before my husband and i met I had five children of my own that I was raising alone then we had three together and after we moved in together he started bringing his two sons from his previous marriage around to get aquainted with my five but by then I had already given birth to our first son together anyway when my husband would bring his sons to my house I would try my hardest to be a great stepmom always giving ideas on family outings and activites for us to do together etc. then everything started to change his older son who was about 14 at the time was very respectful and we hit it off fine the younger of the two who was about ten acted as if i did not exist he didnt even give me the respect that went along in being a guest in ones home.and when I would mention this to my husband he brushed it off as being a phase but he seemed to always give his sons preference to my children despite the fact that i gave everyone equal attention and guidance.my husband refused to involve me in any displinary action that needed to take place with his boys he simply told me that it was between him and their mom. So i stepped back and focused on my own children, although he seemed to have no idea on what he was doing with either of them, now it is six years since we met and we have three boys together and another child on the way I spend alot of time making sure that my children are on point and correct with themselves they are happy intelligent well mannered and resourceful children. the problem is this (and please forgive me for rambling on) over the pass two years the bio mom of my step sons has begun to loose control over the oldest boy(who is now 17yrs, he has become sexually active, hes into porn and he lies and tries to manipulate anyone thst will listen to him his grades are an average 66% and he does nothing but think of ways to get to his girl friend to have sex with her. now I explained to my husband a year ago that if he did not get control over his son he would nolonger be welcomed in my home (and it is my house, my husband moved in with me and mines) he didnt seem to get the concept, earlier this year the biomom kicked the 17 year old out of the house and sent him to us now instead of my husband dicussing anything with me he took it upon himself to file for custudy of the kid now he has physical custody of him and I am not happy, this kid has introduces my children to animae porn he doest do his chores when he is supposed to and he has put a bad taste in my mouth. And although I have expressed to my husband that I do not want his son here anymore the boy is still here and although recently he has tried to get on my good side again i no longer wish to even acknowledge him because i know it is just an act I was teenager once and I hung out in the street of nyc so I concider myself street smart hes not street smart he is just a horney teenager. my husband has seemed to just ignore my request for him to send the boy back home by saying the mother doesnt want him there. and I am now uncomfortable in my home than I have ever been, I feel like I have lost some unclear battle and on top of that he brings his other son over every weekend because the mother doesnt want him staying home alone. the summer has begun and my children are away at summer camp and his sons are contantly in my home on the weekend,and to top that off my husband feels that i should care for them while he is at work.If I wanted children around all summer then i would not have sent mkids away for the summer, I now feel defensive and disrespected, my home doesnt seem to be my own anymore and i have begun to feel like i should file for a divorce and take my children and leave new york. no matter how I put it to him he seems to act as if he ignores me then my feelings will change. I am done I am beyond comprimise and negotiation,I am the prime caregiver to my children I am the one who buys 99.999%of the food its my home and I supply the children with clothing toiletries and other things they have (toys, books, cell phones etc) my husband only pays the electric and cable/phone bill. why shold I put up with this anylonger I feel so fustrated and resentful towards my husband and his sons that I think that I should have never married him.