SS17 is running his usual show in having shitty grades (currently has an F in English Lit, and a D- in the class he's the T.A. for, and a C- in another class). I'm pretty sure DH has no idea and I'm not going to say anything (= disengage). SS has finally stopped singing the "I'm going into the Military" tune after DH called him out on it a month or so ago (which is refreshing as that was a particularly pathetic lie; the military not likely needing any lazy stoner types that can't do a chin-up, push-up, or a mile). However, the new story is (wait for it) SS is enrolling in community college. The classes he'd allegedly take are very popular and have waiting lists. SS told DH he's scheduled a meeting with the high school counselor to get help signing up for classes. I both DOUBT and DREAD thus being true, because A) SS is a known liar/storyteller/exaggerator, and I cannot stand the thought of SS continuing to live here past this Summer. Seriously. I am counting DOWN and DH knows it.

My question is, do the community colleges even let you enroll if you haven't graduated & are failing required courses? I wonder what the school counselor will tell him? I wonder if he'll pay for classes, get a job, get a drivers license, get insurance, and be driving before mid-August when classes start... commuting 30 miles to and from campus several days a week, while also managing a work schedule and paying gas/car insurance? Somehow I don't see it happening. Another question: is it evil to want SS gone? I don't want another Christmas under the same roof as him, yet if he pulls off the "Gonna Be A STUdent" con, I can see SS wasting $$ on admissions, registration, parking, etc., then coming crying to Daddee when the money either didn't get earned or got partied away before bills got paid. His best efforts wouldn't likely get him that far (=conning DH into thinking biz is handled) but to me it's looking like he will continue avoiding reality until either I leave or my DH kicks SS out. Only recently has the former entered my mind, but I do not want to live with a lying, lazy, manipulative person anymore.

Also, I cannot even count the lies I catch SS telling. It's ridiculous. Tonight he cryptically mentioned having left his phone at home when he left for "school" this morning, but I know that's b.s. because I logged into our account & saw he made calls/texts during school hours. Pretty sure he made up that lie to cover for not even being anywhere near campus until after noon today. Because of the grades, in the past before attempting to detach, he'd have consequences, including losing xbox privileges, but this time I'm not alerting DH, just taking screenshots and letting SS keep going until either I move out or DH wakes up & sees just how hard this kid is working at NOT growing up. I don't trust SS17 and hate how he abuses his own dad's desire to trust & believe in SS. I don't want DH yelling at me anymore, so I'm not pointing out any of the grades, the lies, or anything that could get turned into something to blame me for. SS can keep on lying directly to his dad's face and DH can believe as much b.s. as he wants... until others (most recently a teacher) tell him how SS acts. I want to successfully disengage and stay in a sane, peaceful mindset instead of the ongoing dread and disgust I feel about living with someone trained in The Art of the Con and seeing my DH fall for it (and get yelled at when I point it out).

I very much love my DH but the stress if living with SS17 in our marriage is very painful and I wouldn't stick around and endure it if I didn't think it was temporary. I also love SS very much but resent his dedication to avoiding everything good and seeking out loser friends who do nothing but gossip and get high.