Monday 4:30 birthday party???
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Every year SDIL plans OSGD's birthday party at very inconvenient times. This year it's at 4:30 on a Monday. WHY???? Most people work till 5pm. We live over 2 hours away with good traffic. That time of day it we will hit two major traffic areas. I honestly think she does this to see who will take off work to go. DH said he isn't taking off the afternoon to go but didn't tell SS or SDIl that yet. I will not be going. I still have 2 BKids in school and would have to pick them up 2 hour early from school in order to make it in time for the party. No way I'm doing that for a 6th birthday party.
Maybe she knew you and DH
Maybe she knew you and DH will not take time off thus the time and date, seems like she does not really want you there, this way she can tell kid.... Grandpa does not love you..
Maybe she's having an after
Maybe she's having an after school party for the kids. I haven't been to all my grandkids parties (they live 2 hours away too) and certainly grandparents didn't come to my kids parties. Parties are first and foremost for the kids. At that age they want their school friends there- they don't care who's there as long as they have fun and get presents. I think DH should arrange a suitable time and day to visit and have a 'second birthday,' that's what we do here in Fairyland.
SGD wasn't in Pre-K or any
SGD wasn't in Pre-K or any other type of school till this year so she doesn't really have a group of friends yet. SDIL and SS do this every year and make DH feel guilty if he doesn't take off to go. I'm hoping once SGD goes to school and start making friends SDIL and SS will start planing the party at a more convient time so it's about SGD instead of making everyone prove they love SDG by taking off work for her birthday party.
I wasn't making excuses for
I wasn't making excuses for them- I've been on the receiving end of this behaviour- DH feeling he can't attend because BM has the stepgrandkids parties at her house! It's a bit of a minefield in which the only aim should be for the kids to have a good time- how sad that they get caught in the middle. I keep out of these matters- but I would never take time off work even for own grandkids.
My OSD routinely wants DH to
My OSD routinely wants DH to either attend something 2.5 hours away or babysit when he either works or has to sleep at least few hours (he works nights). When he cant come she says he is a bad father and his priorities are all wrong. It never fails.
I respectfully disagree. OP's
I respectfully disagree. OP's DH should ask SDIL.
Since I didn't get a Facebook
Since I didn't get a Facebook invite like DH did I don't have to say anything since technically I wasn't invited }:) DH gets to deal with this all on his own!!!
The SpermClan used to try to
The SpermClan used to try to play this card with their visitation when SS was a young school aged kid. "He can miss school to come early or stay late so he can spend time with us." Nope, not happenin. The kid did not miss school for that kind of thing.... unless we arranged it with the school and the event or travel had educational value that SS would submit an assignment for his classe(es) upon his return. Hanging out with the toothless morons in the SpermClan didn't count.
I applaud you and DH for applying the test of reasonableness to this situation and not catering to the toxic Skids manipulative crap regarding the GSkid's birthday party. Your kids school takes precedent and your DH should not have to leave his work and subject himself to half a dozen hours of road tie to cater to his daughter's manipulative drama.
IMHO of course.
I agree completely! I have a
I agree completely! I have a senior and a junior. Plus Monday night is marching practice and DS can lose his place in the band if he misses. No way I'd make him do that for a party.
What is wrong with Saturday
What is wrong with Saturday afternoon like everyone else?
Exactly
Exactly
Every single birthday party
Every single birthday party for my kids were a Saturday or Sunday afternoon. That was to ensure that everyone could attend. Many parents or family members would have been at work on a school day, including me, so the concern would be that most wouldn't be able to make it or find a way to get their kids there.
OP be glad you are missing the drama.
She's probably thinking about
She's probably thinking about what's convienent for OSGD's friends and their families. 4:30 on a monday after school would probably fit in well with many stay at home mom's schedules. Personally I wouldn't drive 2 hours to attend a kiddie party anyway.
Except for the child who
Except for the child who hasn't started school yet. Plus SS and SDIL do this every year. Always a week night and always before people get off work.