I've been divorced almost two years come this October. My three kids live with their mom son 20 daughter 18 and a 9 year old daughter. My two oldest children sent me nothing for fathers day yesterday no text messages no cards no pone calls nothing. This makes the second year they have treated me this way. My daughter that is 8 this year has her own cell phone she did text me happy fathers day after my girl friend texted her and told her she should text me. Shortly after she messaged her I got a text from her. I was married for 20 years to a woman that is narcissistic very controlling and after she filed for the divorce I moved out gave her everything house, van everything inside the house. My ex wanted me to stay in the house after the divorce and sleep on the sofa and be her personal atm machine and she date whom ever she wanted and I could do the same. I told her no... It was not a month after I moved out I heard she was on a online dating site so I did the same. I found someone else and so did she. We both have moved on with other people... Since the divorce I stopped being her personal atm machine. I pay all of my own bills ... I found out she was charging me four times as much for my car insurance she lied to me told me it was such a high amount because I was in a accident the month we got our divorce.. I just wrote out the checks to her and I did not check with the insurance agent until a year later. Now Im paying all of my bills all on my own and I also am paying off all of our old credit card debt that we were both to pay half on. Shes paid nothing so far... I pay for my little girls private schooling and she was to pay for my other daughters private schooling and I pay her child support for the two girls and health insurance for all three kids. I do not have to pay health insurance for my two oldest kids but I do so because I love them. I am flat broke... she has taken four vacations this year and I've not been able to afford a vacation in years...My oldest son lives in a dorm and attends college and my daughter will be attending college in the fall. He thinks I should be supporting him too... I do not have it.I told him I am broke..Shortly after New Years 2016 just months after our divorce my son pulled away ignored my phone calls and text messages. Then he refused to get together for any of the holidays he told me he is sick of all of the drama.. Drama I mind you that his mother causes. He said he wants nothing to do with me or my family he is done... Now my 18 yr old daughter graduated just a few weeks ago and I attend her graduation I show up with roses and a card with $200.00 in it. I hugged her and so did my girl friend we gave her our gifts. Then I texted her and I texted her over and over again nothing no thank yous no reply back my mother did the same and she too received no replys back. My son has disowned me and my side of the family and now it looks like my oldest daughter is doing the same. I've done nothing wrong... my girlfriend has met my son two times she has done nothing wrong... Sure my ex and I have had arguments she wants a life style that she can not afford and she wants me to provide it to her and our three kids... we could not afford it when we were married we still cant afford it. My ex wife is living a life style she nor I can not afford she thinks she is rich and we both are far from it. Anything my kids want she buys it she is being taken to court right now by so many credit card companies.Now I find out the house payments have not been made in over a year and my name is still on the loan. She was court ordered to refinance and she has not done so I called her she refuses to discuss the issue with me. She is ruining my credit and my kids have no idea the situation and I tell them nothing. They all three are so close to becoming homeless. My name was removed from the deed because the court order me to do so. I divorced my wife not my kids... now my kids are divorcing me... I have been abused verbally by my ex for years. I even blocked her from my cell phone because of her constant texting me daily cutting me down cursing me out. I gave her my home phone but she refuses to call me on it. So she bought my 9 year old her own cell phone and she has used it to communicate with me from time to time. She even wrote my girl friend a long letter telling her every reason why she kick me out of her life. Thank God everything she put in the letter I told my girlfriend from day one. So if she did that to my girl friend I'm sure she is filling my kids heads up with lies and her side of the arguments. I never have nor will I ever cut the mother of my kids down in front of them. I just want to move so very far away from it all and start a new life with my girl friend. Now my little girl never comes to visit me maybe once a month. Her mom told me it is not what we want it is what our little girl wants and she does not want to come see me so I am to give in and let my 9 year old decide every week if she wants to come visit her father... its a court order I am to have shared custody not barely see my kid but once a month. I want my kids in my life but the abuse the hurt they are causing me is killing me and the relationship I have with my new best friend. She puts up with my anger my tears and my depression and she still loves me. She is all I really have and I am so afraid she will be fed up soon with the drama and leave me. My kids have not even given her a chance she is one wonderful sweet lady. Yes she is 5 years older than me and my ex wife and two older kids call her grandma Jennie... Not by her real name Jennie. I know it hurts her. I am 51 she is 56 and to me age does not matter. I love her and she loves me. So fed up!