}:) DH should be the one getting up not you... kick him out of bed, but that will not help, you would be awake any how.

Plan B - buy her a funky torch, Elsa, minion what ever rocks her boat and tell her, big girls take their torch and go to the potty , you need quiet and rest or the baby will scream every night once it's there and no one will be able to sleep.... something like that, if I recall she's very excited about the baby... use it and teach her now to be quiet and a big sister..

Flashlight.

she can have a flashlight for her nocturnal runs to the potty.

If it is happening too much, maybe restrict liquids a few hours before bedtime.

No, your expectations are not too high. Give her a choice, get up and go on her own or get her butt spanked. Then follow through.

The yelling crap is inappropriate at best and intolerable at worst.

Each child is different. My 6 year old would be like that. He doesn't like to go to the bathroom during the day by himself. It drives me crazy. My 5 year old will go and lock the door.

Losing it on her won't help. I have to completely ignore my 6 year old's demands and then he eventually goes alone.

I agree with Brick's advice.

BS4 used to do this. I enabled it because I didn't wanting him waking up BS2, who sleeps in the same room. It took about 1 week of me being gone overnights (work issues) for DH to fix it. DH let him wet himself, then would pick him up, hose him off, put him in clean PJs and send him back to bed on a stripped bed. He'd then take BS2 to bed with him. Eventually BS4 got tired of (what felt like) lukewarm showers and having to sleep without sheets.

BS4 will still announce that he has to potty, but it's quiet and he does it as he's going. Mostly to complain that the light in the bathroom is too bright.

And yes, DH does the I-told-you-so smirk whenever my mother brings up how nice it is that BS4 will finally go potty at night by himself. I admit I'm the softy in our house. I'm working on it, but it's nice to have DH as my backup when I fail.

Edit: To put the pressure back on DH to get up, get our your baby monitor early and stick the 'parent' piece on the side of the couch where DH sleeps at full volume. Then he can wake up to SD and deal with it. Your issue might go away faster.

Put a potty in her room for her to use. Have her dump it in the toilet in the morning.

A few thoughts:

There is non-statistically significant evidence that drinking the equivalent of more than 16 cups of coffee a day *may* reduce baby birthweight by a very small amount. If you need caffeine, go for it. Sadly, it doesn't live up to its rep...

You will probably get better results being more concrete with SD. This is an area I'm not great in myself, so I work really hard at it. What might help guide you is knowing that kids don't have a realistic sense of time until age 7 or so - so 1 minute, 10 minutes, time to get up, time to sleep is not intuitive for them at all.

Example: Tell her, "Today we're going to practice going pee at night." Have her lie down on the bed while you are there, then show what she does when she has to go pee at night. Tell her, "SD, at night you don't have to tell anyone, you can do it by yourself. I know you can do it because you do it in the daytime, and you're very good at it. Show me how you will do it at night time." Practice 4-5 times... probably for about a week or so.

If she's shouting at night, then whoever is doing the parenting needs to bring it in the middle of the night as well. Out of bed, down the hall, open her door - "SD, you're making a lot of noise. Is everything ok? Oh, you need to pee? Well, you're a big girl now, and you've been practicing. You can go pee on your own. Tomorrow at breakfast you can tell me what a good job you did." And leave. Let her howl... you weren't going to sleep through the yelling anyway, and you've set a boundary.

It could be that even after she knows better, she doesn't always do better. They don't always have the self-control we wish they did.... but we can remind them that it's expected.

Another example: She doesn't really understand the effect her behaviour has on other people. Of course you should explain it, but it's not rudeness the way an adult would be being rude by behaving disruptively and refusing to apologize. It's good to explain the effect of her behaviour on you - "SD, I really appreciate you going pee on your own in the night. I get to sleep really well which gives me good energy for playing with you in the daytime." "SD, you made a lot of noise in the night when you had to go pee, so I didn't get a good rest. That's too bad because I won't be able to play as much today."

Another example: If the bottom line is that she's not allowed to make noise, then that is what needs to get addressed in the middle of the night. (I am not assuming that that is your rule though.) The next morning is way too late (think training a dog, lol). And also, her apology should be tied to her behaviour, not to your level of frustration. "SD, you're making a lot of noise and waking me up. You've practiced going pee quietly at night many times, so I really don't like all that noise. I'd like you to apologize for making so much noise.... Great, apology accepted and now you can start fresh and go pee quietly and I'll go back to bed. Good night."

I would be so mad if any of my kids had done this. They would have had an age appropriate chore for waking everyone up. When they were younger and did something that brought *bad energy* into the house they had to do a chore to clean that energy up. Silly I know but it taught the lesson and made the house cleaner too.

Consider doing this:

No liquids 3 hours before bedtime
Reinforce that if she has to get up to pee she does it quietly
Every night that she pees quietly she gets a star and you all do the potty dance. Woo hoo!
Leave the hall and bathroom light on and make sure she has a night light.
Wear ear plugs!
Make DH get up and deal w/any issues and have him do it quietly so you can sleep.

Sleep as much as you can now because once baby comes you may not get the chance.