Last night i brought it up to SO that his dear little princess has decided not to comb her hair or shower anymore. I let him know that's why her hair has looked so awful, she throws it back in a pony tail and never Combs it out. We both agreed that the next morning she would be required to shower and comb her hair before school or he would comb her hair. Well, he wakes her up then treks off to his hour in the bathroom. So i take initiative and have her get in the shower. When she came down I let her know firmly, "SD you did not comb your hair out, you must go upstairs and comb it out or your dad will be combing it out himself." From the bathroom SO yells, "Are you being mean to MY BABY!?" She glares at me then snickers and goes off to play with her dog. When SO gets out of the bathroom he goes over to BD1 and says, "Was Mommy being mean!?" IHe does that, talks to our daughter instead of directly addressing me. So I snap back, "I wasn't even being mean about it! I just told her to get her hair brushed out. If she keeps it up you are going to have to cut that rats nest out!" He says wait are we taking about SD I said yes of course we are, come to find out I guess he thought I was talking to our BD1, all he heard was my firm tone. Well, he promptly turns around to chew SD11 out, for 1 being nasty and raggety and 2 because he knew i had already asked and told her what was expected, and instructions coming from me are the same as if he says them. Her smug little grin turned into tears that we would be so awful as to expect basic hygiene.
On another note, SO is in no way dad of the year. SS5 is starting sports and he called and begged me to come to one of his games. I want to go and I love SS but he lives 3 hours away. SO thinks it's not worth it. How much effort should i really keep putting out when SO doesn't put out ANY. He never buys them (SS5 & SD3) anything because he pays CS so any effort i make is on me and will not be appreciated. Except by my steps, the little ones are very loving and appreciative.