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Step daughter was talking, now refuses

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Submitted by Crazydoglady on Wed, 10/19/2016 - 8:49am

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Blended Family Issues

We have been having weekend visitation with my step daughter who is almost three for about 6 months. When She first started coming over she would talk and tell you when her diaper was dirty, when she was hungry, and just actually spoke. Over the past 2 months she has just completely stopped speaking, she will speak to my husbands mother and his sister but will not talk to us while she is here or to anyone else while she is with us. she just stares at you like you're mentally challenged if you try to speak to her and when she soils herself or is hungry she will go to her room and cry (bellow, actually) instead of telling someone she has a problem. Like, this kid would literally starve before she would tell us she is in need. It really hurts my husband, and I'm sick of it. I think her mom is telling her not to talk to us, I have no physical evidence, but every time we pick his daughter up she is fine until her mom turns around in the car and starts talking to her, then she looks at us and starts screaming and crying. I think the mom is mad (she tried to get husband to give up his rights because he wouldn't be with her, that's another story tho) so she is trying to hurt him in other ways. I guess I needed to vent, maybe someone can help me out with this before I lose my mind.

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Wed, 10/19/2016 - 9:04am

DH should do something about this and soon... BM is already poisoning her daughter...

but it could be that she's just at that stage and you are strangers to her

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Submitted by Thumper on Wed, 10/19/2016 - 10:04am

But we teach 3 year olds stranger danger and GOOD touch bad touch.

Right?

If a parent has string beans in front of them and makes a HAPPY YUMMY face and sound--the child will do the same.

IF a parent of a 3 year old makes a ewwww sound and sad face the child will also reject the string beans.

try it.

Now, could a parent say MEAN LADY, scary lady...sure she can. GO only to daddy.

Just saying.

I have seen and heard most everything and I have seen kids think themselves into a frenzy because a parent tells them to.
It is disturbing.

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Submitted by Rags on Wed, 10/19/2016 - 1:22pm

At that age my SS used to pull this crap upon return from a SpermLand visitation. He would leave being 90% toilet trained, speaking clearly and in complete sentences, engaging, happy, clean, well goomed, etc...

He would come back in loaded diapers, unbathed, and not speaking. Instead of clearly asking "Can I please have some milk?" which he would do prior to visitation he would come back pointing, grunting, and crying.

We would not tolerate it. We let him starve or go hungry and told him to "use your words". His tantrums would last a few minutes then he would approach one or the other of us, wipe his tears with the back of his hand and say "I am sorry mommy/daddy. Can I please have some milk?"

The SpermClan post visitation detox period would usually last a few weeks. He had 3x per year SpermClan visitation (5wks summer, 1wk winter, 1wk spring) with the SpermClan from age 2 until 18. In his toddler/post toddler years beginning about two weeks prior to departing for SpermLand he would start his pre-visitation behavioral degredation. Getting moody, lippy, crying, and wetting the bed. We controlled it as much as we could. Post visitation detox would last about 3 weeks. We had zero tolerance for that crap. It was a rough 3-ish weeks but we forced him to re-engage with us as the same level he was at when he left for SpermLand.

We refused to let any PAS or crap from their polluted and shallow gene pool permiate our family or home. Sadly SS was the one who suffered and his mom and I were the ones who had to deal with it with broken hearts that anyone would put that kind of crap on a young child.d

We had to get our lawyer involved a few times to smack the SpermClan around a bit regarding the neglect of SS when he was in SpermLand and the behavioral degredation he suffered when with them. We would have medical evaluations done on SS and then have our atty nail the SpermClan's toxic asses to wall with a pointed letter and copy of the doctors reports on the nasty black sludge that would be around SS's waist, behind his ears, behind his knees, under his arm pits, the bleeding raw diaper rash and puss filled welts, and half inch long finger and toe nails he would return home from visitation with.

I would suggest that you get SD to a doctor and have your lawyer tune up a smoking letter to BM informing her that if the Skid's behavioral degredation continues following her time with BM that DH will initiate court action against BM in order to protect his daughter.

You and DH need to have zero tolerance for this kind of crap and DH needs to jerk a knot in BM's tail for whatever is happening to his daughter in BM's home.

IMHO.

Good luck.