So further to my last post about my brother suddenly dying, and the disgusting response from OSD, DH has started to open his eyes more about her horrible behavior

At first DH thought it absolutely fine that she simply responded to his message with something about passing on her condolences, but, since then he has seen the outpouring of people from the loss of my brother, to sympathy and wanting to be there for my family as well...all with the exception of one individual, OSD

FIl truly liked my brother, my brother certainly did kind things for FIL in the past, my FIL is devastated for me and my family. Even DH's sister, dropped her infantile, nasty behaviour and she can't stop crying. She adored my brother, and he was good to her just like all of DH's family, she even called me sobbing and saying how shocked she is, how smart and classy and cool my brother had been. YSD is absolutely hurting big time. Not only dis she adore my brother, her step-uncle, by he liked her a whole lot too. He used to tell SD's there was no "step" in his relationship with them, they were his nieces, a much loved and valued part of our family

While YSD took those words to heart, at face value, and wanted to be a part of my family, OSD chose to ignore that, brush it all off with disdain, and now that he has died, and in a most awful way, she couldn't muster the class and maturity to even so much as send a text message about this great loss

DH himself loved my brother. They had a good relationship, and DH used to always say my brother was such a brilliant classy guy. DH even plans to get up and speak to that at the funeral, along with all of my family members who are doing the same

Well, over the last few days, especially with the reaction from DH's own family not to mention his own grieving, he has become a little disgusted himself with OSD's lack of any sort of compassion. He sent the funeral arrangements to his whole family including her, then called OSD with the intention of telling her he thought it would be a good thing for her to at least call me and say something - I was NOT happy when he told me he did that - but I do understand he was just standing up for what he felt was right

He didn't get her on the phone, SSIL answered instead (who said how terrible he felt about it all) and DH told SSIL he thinks OSD should make that phone call. SSIL told DH he would pass on the message to her

She still chose not to

I don't honestly care any longer and I'm truly not surprised. That sort of evil reaction to a great loss as this is all on her, not me.

DH is particularly outraged that just one day after we were at her home, spoiling SGS's with gifts, being classy and decent to her as usual, she responded to this tragic news the very following day by being cold, and unfeeling

She had a choice to make, to show some maturity and class and act in a decent way, or to let her true ugly colours show through once again. She made the choice, and she will have to live with the consequences...one of which is the disgust even her own father/DH feels for her right now, for her lack of decency, which is very noticeable compared to the outpouring of compassion from every one else, including all other members of his own family

The ugly side of step-life yes, but glad I don't feel so much bitterness and jealousy towards anyone in life that I would ever sink that low!