My DH is 10 years older than me. Most people mention it and then move on..my DH and I do the usual sarcastic oh yeah robbing the cradle teehee bit and then it's over with.

His sister is the only one who has a true issue with it and she ignores me. Her DH cheated on her with a younger woman so I guess is some weird back woods way that is my fault.

His friends will talk about the early and late 70's like it was yesterday and then look at me to add input. I usually say something like "don't look at me I wasn't born yet..then I make fun of all their mullets.

It really is silly and I don't let it bother me. I have a co-worker who is in his 70's and is married to a woman in her late 40's. THEY get all the looks. but after knowing them both they have been together for 20 years or something crazy their love is true and beautiful.

I can't give advice from my relationship right now (DH is 36 and I'm 34) BUT when I was 18 I dated a guy who was 29. (if I remember correctly! I *think* he had his 30th birthday while we were together)

But your post reminded me of something sweet that my ex BF said in response to a comment about 'the age gap' maybe your DH could say it to others if they say anything? I thought it was adorable

He was on the phone to a friend telling him about his new GF (me, lol) and his friend said "18?!! wow! just a babe in arms!" My ex immediately responded "yes, she *is* a babe, and she's in my arms LOL

So basically yes, following the same lines as Pinki's advice, find the humour in the situation, laugh it off and pretend it doesn't bother you.

I think the phrase "fake it til you make it" applies here ..maybe after a while of pretending it doesn't bother you, then it really truly won't bother you after a while? x

My DH is 15 years older than me. I was 29 and he was 44 when we met. We've been married 7 years now, together for 9.

I've never had any issues with others commenting about our age difference. My brothers are close to his age, so to me it's normal. My DH looks fairly young as well. I would think the older we all get, the less the age difference matters.

Some of my friends are also 12 years older than me. My best friend is 12 years older, and she had a long-term boyfriend who was 15 years older than her when we first became friends. I was 26, so the boyfriend was in his 50's. His daughter was only a couple of years younger than me. I didn't really think anything of his age, and he was fine with me.

It doesn't hurt that my DH thinks he's still my age. It's actually shocking he put his real age in his dating profile when we met. He also doesn't age discriminate either, so he has friends that are younger than me as well. I think people who make comments must be very insecure.

I am 29 DH is 38. We met when I was 23 and he was 32.
We honestly did not know of the age difference when we met. We met in a bar and didn't ask each other how old we were...lol... He told me he had kids on the second or third date and I didn't even ask how old they were until a few months later. He was the first man with kids I ever dated(I was dating other men too-we weren't exclusive, so I didn't ask details about them) And it wasn't until a year that we got serious and exclusive and I even met his kids.
DH is the oldest of all his siblings in a good Catholic family and his youngest sister is younger than me by a few years. So when they first found out how old I was they were really pissed at him saying, "That's your little sister's age!"-Not that bad in most families but in his they were thinking pedophile.
I am also just as many years away from his oldest daughter as I am from my DH. She is 17. So out in public it does not "look like she could be mine" if you know what I mean. It is very obvious I am the stepmom.
When people have made comments in public about our age difference DH says, "I married young so she could take care of me when I'm old, you know the state of social insecurity now days. She will still be prime working age when I'm retired." To which I usually respond, "That's what he thinks. This is the longest I've had to wait on the life insurance payout from a marriage. I'm just waiting for him to croak so I can move on to the next old geezer." When people see we don't take it seriously it lightens it...
Now his family is a different story. I think they will always have a rough spit for me.

My DH is turning 60 this year and I'll be turning 41. So we're 19 years apart.

We just got married five months ago - my first, his second.

I know our marriage makes a lot of women in his age bracket feel uncomfortable. They probably see me as the typical younger woman who's after older husbands. The facts that it was DH's wife who divorced him and that he didn't want the divorce are immaterial. They see DH's choice of a younger woman to be his Second Wife as a threat to their own marriages. This translates to a lot of cold shoulders and sidelong looks from the women I meet from his life. One, in particular, starts to cling - literally - to her husband whenever she's in my presence.

The remarks that you're getting probably stems from the same thing I'm experiencing: insecurity.

I think after a while, you just learn to tune out the insecurity from others. Hope that reassures you that there are others here in the same boat!

my fiance is 9 years older. we dont have this problem. but he's a young 47stb48 and im a young 38.

DH is 9 years older than me...but he looks younger and I probably look older from all the stress in my life (lol). Anyway, in our case it isn't a big deal - like someone else mentioned, he's the same age as my oldest brother so I don't think about it much. Plus, in the grand scheme of things...what's 9 years, or even 13? I do think, that once you get over 30 it'll get easier, because I feel the older people get, the less an age difference really matters. Like for example, it's huge when you have an 18 year old and a *gulp* 9 year old! And it's even somewhat odd to have a 27 year old with an 18 year old...but from then on it diminishes. I think because life changes so much when we're younger, but from 30 on not a whole of the personality, lifestyle, etc. changes in a person. Like, your personality and your grip on life is pretty solid at that point (or should be)...and with age life-experiences sorta meld.