My sister-in-law basically said the same thing SD's aunt. I have spoke about this with my sister-in laws. I have 3 but feel they might be biased. I do believe she is so immature and may never grow up. DH coddles her and that sure does not do her any favors. She always says she wants me to tell her the truth and I did and this is where we are at.. she moves out Sunday and its not soon enough. you can cut the tension in the air with a knife.

DH and I are not used to the filth. we love animals and groom our cat everyday and take care of it like it should be. the dog we had was the same we took care of our dog and cleaned up after him and groomed him and he had manners. this dog is not taken care of and is very stupid. poor dog is 4 years old and I blame her for the dog being misbehaved and will still mess on the floor. We have worked hard to have our home and take pride in it without being crazy neat. she will be gone in 4 days and I cant wait. there is a reason she is still single. I'm sure when her last relationship ended the man was happy to see her go and he never said, hey lets see if we can work this out. he was likely relived she left and was thankful he dodged that bullet.

Yes , floored me when she said it. This is a large 100lb dog. so its sleeping and dreaming and feet are moving and i slapped the couch 2x and said abby wake up and that was thrown in my face to i will cause the dog damage. yes really.

yes I will be once she gets out in 4 days. now she will not speak to me and just walks by. I hate the tension but know both DH and I will be so much better off once she is gone.

I think she has the dog because it will love her unconditionally. It lives in the house and not outside and sleeps with her. that's another problem because we don't let that happen here. And because we put limits on the dog. no eating on the carpet, stay off the hardwood upstairs and when we bring the dog in from outside we make her stay on the mat till she is dry and SD has issues with that as well. just bring her in and let her get right on carpet. She cut me off no DH. DH and I would joke about how she would come to visit me and not him and now im the bad person and she will talk to him. No, she was a treat for her mother and her sisters tip toe around her. she has a strained relationship with her mother at best. she will get the dog its rabies shots but never take it to the vet and my DH finally last year got on her about getting the dogs nails clipped, she does not flea the dog. just food and she will have to walk as she is moving to an apt and feeds the dog.

Thanks I needed that reality check... we had a security system put in. i put it in recently as we go back and forth to our trail for the next 6 months. we wanted to put on in last year but finally found the right unit at the right price. anyway still tweaking the setting as the routher is not always happy.. so was just looking at the recorded viw and saw her give the double bird to i would assume me. OMG. I feel sick that someone has so much hate in them...

I feel the same. I have had 2 indoor cats ( one after the other)that both lived till 18 and 19 years. One i gave a thyroid pill 2xa day for 7 years and the latest cat we own was a outdoor cat that a neighbor moved away and we took in. He is now a 70/30 indoor cat and because he is outside he gets wormed every 3 months (as per vet) and monthly flea stuff from vet and is groomed 1 or 2x a day. he has long hair and gets all his shots and is well taken care of. We take him to our trailer in the car and actually walks on a leash at the trailer. ( not allowed out there, afraid to lose him)

During the time of the second cat we received a yellow lab the kids had and their BM was going to toss but we took instead because of kids crying about the poor dog. again a well taken care of lab that lived to 15years with arthritis meds for his last 2 years of life. We have a big foyer about 6x10 and he lived there for the last 2 years of his life as it was to hard to get up or down the stairs. no hardwood at that time. So i really have no idea why she would think that we are damaging the dog making it live there.

She will be the worst mother ever to a child if this is how she takes care of a dog.
we both love animals and i don't blame the dog as its all her for not training it.

yes screw her. some day maybe she will be sorry when she has a tragedy or light bulb moment and realizes that her thinking is wrong. and you reap what you sow.