My SD13 is a little bitch and the biggest shit stirrer between me, DH and BM!!!!! SD13 has been living with us now for 3 years and what happen last week is the the last straw!!!! my DH has 3 daughters SD21, SD16 and SD13 which i have no love for all of them. i dont have anything to do with the SD21 since she announce her engagement to her dickhead boyfriend on my wedding day in front of my family and friends OMG!!!!! the SD16 used to live with us but i kick her out by her being disrespectful and mentally abusive to me and is still doing it and now SD13 is doing the same thing!!!!! BM encourages the girls to bad mouth me, abuse me and treat me like shit even though she refuses to have any of her kids live with her she is calling me the bad role model lmao. recently i saw something on the tv about parents being mentally abusive to their kids and one mother has been jailed for it, not knowing SD13 was just about into the room i commented saying that her mother should be jailed too. next morning DH got a abusive phone call from BM saying i should keep my fucking mouth shut before she comes and shut it for me (all bark and no bite from the little lapdog just like SD16 and SD21). first DH had a go at ME for saying something i shouldn't in my own house (WTF!!!!!) then rang SD13 (who was on her way to school at the time) asking why she said what i said to her mother SD13 responded saying "mum asks me if lani (which is me) has said everything about me so i told her" i could not believe it! cause the same thing happen when the SD16 bitch lived with us telling mummy things i was doing and saying. that was last week and she hasn't been home since cause DH thinks i need time to cool down (hahahaha are you fucking kidding me!!!) and SD13 has not been punish in anyway for going out of her way to stir shit!!!!. i said the punishment should be no credit on her phone to call people and grounding for 2 weeks. DH agrees on the grounding so school holidays are coming up in 1 week so the first two weeks she is grounded but he thinks she should keep her phone with credit on it cause quote " kids her age needs a phone" :sick: . i cannot wrap my head around why BM wants to know what i think, say and move crazy bitch!!! i tried to disengage from SD13 in the past but her mother is useless and self absorbed and definitely will not take her to live with her (SD21 lives with lazy boyfriend and SD16 lives with BM parents) what can i do? i do not want anything to do with SD13 anymore but DH is away for work most of the time and BM wont take her! how do i handle her??