Because well, SD16 and I get along like a house on fire, and I see BM literally once every two years. BM can do NOTHING to ruin my life (let her try!) or even disrupt it as long as I don't give her space in my head.

Unfortunately, BM is really taking up space in my head lately. It's all stupid petty shit, mostly, but at this point, I don't know if I can keep my cool in four weeks when I have to see her.

SD16 is at my MIL's for Thanksgiving. Her ACT scores came in yesterday, and BM was on her ass to let BM open them. SD16 stood her ground, but told BM that she had her composite scores emailed to her already. SD16 got a 20. That's national average.

Here's where my head explodes.

BM said that an average score isn't good enough. HOW DARE SHE. Where was BM when SD16 was studying? (who knows?) Who helped SD16 study even a little bit? (that'd be ME, the evil, "she's nothing to MY daughter!" SM) Did BM hire a tutor? (Not a chance!) Encourage SD16 to go to classes offered by the school? (Riiiiight!)

How the FUCK does that LAZYASS BITCH get off making my girl feel like shit about herself?

Here's the truth. SD16 is not an academic superstar. She has the potential to succeed, and even do well, but she needs support and resources, none of which are available in that house. SD16 made the national average score on a standardized test while going to a shitty ghetto bayou high school. That is good enough for me. I'm not going to blow smoke up her ass about her potential college career. She's not going to Harvard. She's not going to a private university. Hell, she's not going to any of the better state schools immediately, if I have my way. But she does have the ability to do well if she goes about it the right way.

BM is a fucktard. She's "too busy" to attend anything for SD16. (but for her brother8, you BET BM is all over that shit) She's actively trying to sabotage SD16's good eating efforts (won't buy broccoli. Seriously. Frozen broccoli. Or chicken breasts. Or ANYTHING that doesn't come in a box) She is TOO FUCKING LAZY to take SD16 to the dentist (2008 is the last time) She claims (and read my blogs from this time last year) that SD16 "doesn't need" therapy. Funny BM - in Dec '11 SD16 was disturbed enough to sling her into a mental hospital, but as of May '12, she's all of a sudden CURED!!! and hasn't gone to therapy since? Lazy, useless, bitch - who lives to make other people, especially her daughter (MY FUCKING CHILD OF THE HEART) feel like shit.

546 days. That's how many days until SD16 graduates from high school and can leave that swamp shithole and that bigoted bitch in her rearview mirror. I can't wait.