SD13 called this morning
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SD13 called this a.m. at 7:30. Fiance didnt answer. As soon as he heard the ring, he said "who is that?" and i said "SD". Oh, the pained look on his face.... and then he said "i know i should probably answer, but i cant deal with her right now". I said "if she gives you crap later, remind her that you have this thing called a JOB and that at 730 you are showering and readying for work". Then i told him he could also remind her of the countless calls and texts that she is always ignores because she's "busy" which we all know is crap because she's on that phone 24/7! i swear she must have an apple logo imbedded in her hand.
Good news that he's not
Good news that he's not letting her run his life via some electronic device.
Personally if she started crap I'd ignore it and ask her what's up? I.e. make her get to the point.
IT'S MY PHONE. I'll answer it if its convenient for me. YOU are disturbing my life and have no right to require me to hop to your demands to talk to me. Yes I ignore calls all the time and not just because I'm driving. Let them leave a message and when it's convenient I'll call back.
I'll answer it if its
I'll answer it if its convenient for me.
Good one, Orange!
Why does she call so early?
Why does she call so early? Just because? I thought my SD19 was the only one with the apple logo on her palm? LOL She goes through about one charger per week!
she never calls. ever. but
she never calls. ever.
but apparently his social experiment is working, thus the phone call.
When my SD declared (through
When my SD declared (through BM) that she was not coming over for visitation anymore and my DH did not fight it, SD started calling ALL the time, whereas before, she had hardly ever called him between her visits.
I'm glad your fiance is not chasing her anymore. She needs to learn that just because she is his daughter, she does not get to treat him like crap. My SD thought my husband should just overlook everything because he was her dad. Um, no.
I would call her back at my
I would call her back at my convenience and act casual.
Your fiance should ignore any tantrum she has, he owes her no explanation. He should also not throw her past actions in her face, much better to show/tell her how it works in the real world. If one is busy when a call comes in, one returns the call later. With the proper role model, she will eventually learn how to act and how to treat people. Well, hopefully.
Plenty of kids these days
Plenty of kids these days seem to have little to no consideration for their parents' working hours. My DH works a 10-12 hour shift and doesn't go to bed until 5:30-7am. No matter how many times he tells S12 that any time before 2pm is too early to call, S12 calls anyway. And calls. And calls. And calls. S12 is not stupid. Like a lot of kids, it's all about "me and what I want". At first, DH had his cell phone(we no longer have a landline - thank goodness!) in the bedroom. Then he started leaving it in the kitchen. Now he turns the darn thing OFF until he gets up. If I need to get hold of him, we have another phone to which only I have the number and I would never dream of waking him unless it was an emergency.
well, in my SD's case, her
well, in my SD's case, her mother is a lazy sack of crap that doesnt really work, so she has no idea what a workday, M-F routine is.
I hear that. BioMonster is in
I hear that. BioMonster is in for a VERY rude awakening when CS comes to and end. She's living high off the hog with her low-paying job close to that sh*thole she lives in and Mr. Pinhead only works part-time for a pittance. She better hurry up and get her 3 car payments over with by the time PrinceSS15 graduates high school because he plans to enlist, which means CS is OVER.
Good to hear that out there,
Good to hear that out there, a few men have a spine in the face of their entitled offspring!
i hope he keeps it up. he is
i hope he keeps it up. he is so angry with her.
regardless of the PAS, etc. this girl is nearly 14. she claims to be old enough to make decisions on her own about visitation (the court disagrees) and everything else in life. based on that, she can then therefore make decisions on how to treat people and how to act and behave towards others.
he pretty much told her via text that he is done being walked on by her.
all this aside, our home has been so relaxed and its been wonderful not having to deal with her sporadic visits.
It's gratifying to hear that
It's gratifying to hear that a few fathers are getting the idea that the best thing to do with these kids that threaten no visitation is to cut them off thus pulling the power rug out from under them.
Sometimes its literally days and sometimes its years but eventually they get the idea that they will have to reach out or do without Daddy.
Yep! Sure is OC!! My SO
Yep! Sure is OC!! My SO hasn't spoken to SD13 due to her horrible attitude and sense of entitlement. She even accused him of favouring SS12 more than her now and SO is just feddup with it. SD also believes she's the one who should rule the roost in SO's house and be on equal status with him. When he doesn't do as she commands, she goes into silent mode and refuses to speak with him. So, he's done. He's let BM and her drones deal with her.
FMIL told us that one day, she'd get sick of living with BM and will want to come back to Dad. My SO said that would NOT be happening because if BM raises a monster, then she can deal with her right through to adulthood.
I'm so proud of my SO. Took him a while to get to where he is today, but going to Counselling helped us heaps!!