More questions, cs, visitations and phone calls.
FDH started paying child support again.
He hasn't he last two months just to see if we could push her into making a court date. Obviously, hat didn't work. In fact now that he IS paying cs again, every visitation date is missed as per the usual, and now he hasn't talked to the bots in two weeks, because they are always magically too busy to answer the phone when he is allowed to call them, and the boys haven't called him once, which they are allowed to do at anytime per CO.
No letter or email or phone call on father's day is extremely unusual, the boys have always called or written, faithfully every year.
Until this year, when FDH and I became engaged. Which I thoroughly believe is due to BM as the boys have even called and talked to me when they want to in the past. Also, OSS has been very quiet when it comes to our regular book trades on the kindles. Usually we trade once a week and I haven't heard anything from him in three weeks. Not even a "Hi Fox, how are you and Dad?"
Also, just noticed, FDH makes about 18-20% less than he did when the CD was instated and has a new job and will have a new residence in about a month. Is that considered a significant change in circumstances according to the courts?
ETA: she has missed every
ETA: she has missed every single visitation date since she got CP. He has seen his children twice in three years. And that was because he happened to be in her town and saw them. (she's moved twice a year for the last three years dodging FDH when he actually demands her true address according to the CO, she just moves again)
And another thing, we NEVER talk to BM, it's always her husband who answers the phone. We literally have not heard from her since like....Maybe March. And that's only because she accosted us in McDonalds. The only way we get any word about her is from the boys.
Also, random thought. In the
Also, random thought. In the 12 years he had CP she never paid a dime of child support....can he go after her for that?
How old are the children?
How old are the children? They're the "bots" you refer too?
Lol yes. My auto correct did
Lol yes. My auto correct did that. They are 14 and 10.
Long story short, FDH is
Long story short, FDH is functionally illiterate. His parents live across the country and none of his "friends" or anyone he trusts, including his ex pos lawyer ever even read the CO or anything to him. He just hasn't known what to do about any of this AND being functionally illiterate, he hasn't had the best jobs and never had the funds to hire another lawyer.
Since then I have helped him learn to at least read at a 6th grade level and thus he was able to get a better job, and now we are working on saving at least 5k for a new lawyer, currently we are at about 3k right now.
ETA: he is making 20% less now then he did at his old job, but his boss has informed us both in about 3 months he will be getting a $6 raise when FDH passes the cdl licensing.
Do you have legal aid or
Do you have legal aid or something in your state where they go off income? That might be more affordable. Good for you for helping him.
I've seen libraries with
I've seen libraries with adult reading programs and obviously adult education at community colleges or sponsored by the county.
Not paying court ordered child support is a very bad idea. He could be jailed if it got bad enough. He's paid his arrears now so don't worry even if she complained nothing much is likely to happen but don't do that again. Now if there is no court order then he owes nothing and he can quit paying until she sues him for a order of child support.
It's possible that in the past the bio-mother reminded the boy of Fathers Days but now that you're engaged its a new ball game with her. Many women seem to harbor this secret thought that the ex, regardless of why they split, will pine the rest of their life away longing for her. When he moves on it breaks that fantasy and occasionally all hell breaks loose. Or, like this ex wife, she becomes passive about his relationship with her children.
When he calls he should tell his ex that the kids should un-busy themselves long enough to speak to him. If she refuses to co-operate he should threaten to take her to court.
Since no court ordered child support for 12 years then none can be collected. Period. It's the same as telling someone they can live in a house you own for 12 years then going and asking for rent and suing for it. Ain't gonna work.
Update: Did a google search
Update: Did a google search on both addresses BM gave the court as her residence. One was a police station and the other was the firehouse.
Is that legal? I mean can she do that when the CO states we need her ACTUAL residence?
A 20% reduction in NCP oncome
A 20% reduction in NCP oncome is not likely to qualify as a significant change of circumstance for reducing CS. But, you won't know until you try.
As for BM kidnapping the Skids and keeping them from their father, FDH needs to nail her ass to the wall with every legal tactic possible and keep it nailed there until his children are grown.
IMHO of course.
Good luck.
He's actually making about
He's actually making about 30% less currently.
Total honesty though, ANY reason to take her back to court is a good reason.
In missouri all that is
In missouri all that is required is a 20% change.