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I feel like a horrible person, I have all this hate that consumes me it's eating me alive. I think I hate my husband and his 4 yr old daughter. We have been together 4 years and have a son 3 I have a 9 yr old from previous marriage. Anyway when I was pregnant with our son my husband would take it upon himself to dump his daughter on me and go out and get wasted with his friends, I think this is where my hate originates. I would let it happen for awhile until I told him I he was going to go out to have fun and take his daughter. Lol anyway soon after our son was born I found out he was having a texting affair with a couple of chicks, did they ever bone down?! Who knows frankly I don't care anymore...I snapped and I threw some things at him he called the cops which landed me an awesome stay in jail. I ended up moving out and getting my own place. I felt like such a loser with two children on my own. It was so hard and meanwhile he was trying so hard for me to forgive him. Stupid me I fell for it and I'm back in the same spot I was a year ago. Hating life, I have all these trust issues and there is not a day that doesn't go by I don't think of leaving how I hate when my SD comes over she's sooo damn manipulative, how I hate how he treats my BS, how he doesn't defend me in front of his family, I'm suppose to be his wife yet he lets his sisters talk shit about me. How we have to deal with the bitch BM she keeps on wanting more and more money out of him, visiting everything, I feel that if I were to leave him it would solve everything at least I wouldn't have to see him frown at my son every time he speaks or his family of his baby momma it would just be me and my kids then maybe I could enjoy Mother's Day instead of being here feeling bitter and fat. I keep on wanting to salvage our marriage I don't want another divorce on my record but I'm so damn unhappy I know he is too, I've asked him plenty of times to move out and he refuses to why??? Fuck knows! Were hardly intimate anymore hardly keep a conversation longer than 2 mins why he doesn't leave I wish I knew...
Wish I had some magical
Wish I had some magical answers for you but I don't. My DH never sticks up for me in front of his kids, family, no one. I had the audacity to ask for an apology after DH believed SS over something and I was made to feel like shit. When the truth came out, I was right. I never said I told you so but I didn't think an apology was asking too much. "I'm sorry, you are my wife and I should have believed you over my manipulative son." That's asking too much.
Again, wish I had some magical answers. My goal for Mother's Day today is to just stay out of everyone's way and have some peace.
He's got you for babysitting
He's got you for babysitting and sex when the others aren't handy.
Such a all around loser its time you joined the line of mothers getting child support from this guy which is the exact reason he won't leave. How is he going to buy beer for the hussies down at the saloon if he has to give his money to you to support his kid?
I know you're trying to protect your "record" but now is the time to forget about guys, concentrate on your kids and work and by doing both you'll probably stop looking for solace in food.
My heart goes out to
My heart goes out to you....but Life is too short to endure such bullsh*t! My situation was really similar, my 2 SDs lived with us full time, my DH always put them first, sided with his family when they were rude to me and just wasn't a good husband in general.
It was really difficult but I found myself turning into a bitter, twisted, jealous woman - and I made the decision to leave. It was the hardest decision for me but since I've been separated from DH, I feel more myself and so much calmer. Please try and be strong, don't worry about the idea of divorce...wouldn't you rather live the rest of your life happy and settled with your kids? This situation can't be good for them either. You deserve peace and happiness...if your husband won't leave, enlist the help of friends and family to help you stand your ground and make him leave your house. Pack his bags yourself if you have to...