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Submitted by tnic779 on Thu, 04/17/2014 - 5:44pm

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Just got the phone call...the skids are coming over bc its "his wknd" ive had them the past 7 weeks!! We agreed no kids yhis wknd my parents are visiting but now he says they called and" i just hate saying no"!!!he has to work all wknd im the one who should be asked but now he wants me to go get them easter stuff for sunday too??? Whoa...bm i'd bet 1000$ doesnt have a sitter for spring break either so instead of comprimising with me so i can visit with my parents he thinks i should keep them this weekend and then ill get told again sunday night well bm doesnt have a sitter so the kids are staying??? Im a person not a freaking daycare

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Submitted by Annoyed1 on Thu, 04/17/2014 - 5:51pm

Tell him no. He's working and the kids are there to see him, not you. Unless you want to, but it doesn't sound like you do.

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Submitted by step off already on Thu, 04/17/2014 - 5:58pm

First thing that comes to my mind also. Tell him no.

You are busy with your parents. If he would like to take the time off and do something with them, then by all means, encourage him to do so, but you have plans that you've been looking forward to.

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Submitted by ohfreakingwell on Thu, 04/17/2014 - 7:27pm

Does he even ASK you or does he just tell you...because if he isn't going to be there and expects you to be a live in babysitter that is bullshit. You have to lay down some ground rules....he is totally taking advantage of you.

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Submitted by hereiam on Thu, 04/17/2014 - 8:11pm

Why can he not say "no" if he's not going to be home anyway? How about, "No, kids, I have to work. Sorry."

I would be furious and I wouldn't do it.

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Submitted by Orange County Ca on Thu, 04/17/2014 - 10:01pm

YOU are the problem. You're allowing this to happen. You got no one to blame. It's human nature to take advantage of other people especially when its that easy.

YOU tell your husband you made a mistake. Those kids are not coming over. If their mother drops them off you're telling her straight to her face that the kids can't come in. You tell him you'll be making such a scene the neighbors will be talking about until next Easter hoping you do it again. If they do end up in your home as in he brings them home you're taking them right back to their mothers and if she's not home to the police station. If he physically stops you (at this point you're hysterical) you call the police and ask them when they arrive to turn on the blue lights outside so everyone in the neighborhood knows the circus is in town.

Listen you got to start standing up for yourself unless he's got such a financial hold over you that you can't afford to anger him in which case consider it your babysitting money that's paying your share. Is that what you are? The babysitter?

Listen further. If you really think its right that he take them because its his weekend after 7 weeks then you need to take your kids on a holiday away from home for the weekend. Most things are booked so you'll have to settle for some place near a federal or state park that has weather decent enough to visit. Go see your Mom, whatever it takes to leave those kids with him. He has to work - not anymore he doesn't unless he can come up with another babysitter.

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Submitted by LittlePanda on Sat, 04/19/2014 - 1:24pm

HELL NO!!!

I always make sure that step kid time is with DH. They are there to see their father. My step kid lives with us and I STILL make sure that his plans revolve around SD's care being either with him or when she is at BM's. I don't EVER let him pawn her off on me unless I offer it myself.

You are being used.