You're right, it IS bullshit, but if it makes you feel any better, there actually DO seem to be long term consequences, for some of them at least.

LONG before I came into the picture, BM waged a PAS battle against DH. She convinced the girls that their Dad would abuse them if they were at his house, and she withheld visitation for years. Now, by the time I came along, that had settled down after court battles - the girls were having regular visitation, they'd seen for themselves that their Dad was good to them, and they enjoyed spending time with him. And in fact the youngest recently choose to come live with us (because "I can't take Mom's crap any more") and the oldest 2 who live in their own apartment take everything their mother says with a large grain of salt. Because they KNOW, they remember, that she was completely full of it and that she tried to hurt their relationship with their dad. And in the end? She seems to have hurt her own relationship with her kids FAR more than she did DH's. Thank GOD.

It can be extremely infuriating OP. We deal with a BM who breaks the CO, takes the kids and disappears with no contact, is hours late all the time, refuses to allow standard AND recommended by Drs medical treatment, and tries to PAS the children. Not to mention the physical violence in her home....

If she was a man, she'd be in prison. Instead, we document, we hire attorneys, we go to court- she gets another chance, we go back and do it all again.

The only thing I can say is, I feel you.

Queencow....I couldn't agree with you more!!!!

It IS infuriating! Big Bird is living large and karma-free so far--she got what she wanted--biodad's wallet, complete PA and "new" daddy with a fat wallet.

But there are inklings of legal problems to come since she is a BFF BM and stepdad is a wet noodle who cowers in her presence. Not long before skids have a new wardrobe of ORANGE!

I totally agree!! Thank you.

I have recently been dealing with the TRAUMA of being stalked and harassed by a stranger when SO and I first got together. Things still trigger me and I have to deal with the fallout...by myself it seems.

Yes, the stalker and harasser was his ex, and there was more that she did to him, but in my eyes she was a stranger. And she caused me harm... and then caused my man harm.

I told him that I will look for ANY reason to put her ass in jail as she is a CRIMINAL and must be stopped! Even though I know she is a POS, it still sucks that I have not been able to have justice for the crimes that were committed against me. Just like any other stalking victim, I would like to see her punished as she had NO RIGHT to do this to me... and when I say something like "I wish she didn't exist" or "I want her to pay", people will say, "But that's your SD's mother!" As if that makes it alright. :?

Criminals are to be judged by the severity of their crimes, not their parental status.

i know BM will get what's coming to her some day. she will be penniless at 50. once the gravy train stops (CS) she has no job, no degree, no source of income. when her parents die she will get their life insurance, but they have a GIGANTIC mortgage on their home that they've owned for 4 generations (yes, these people have major cluelessness when it comes to money management).

she will have to find a man to take care of her, but she's ugly as sin on the outside and inside and what fool (other than my fiance) would want to marry her and live with her parents?

that's what keeps me going during these times where it appears she is living the life o'reilly.

YES! I totally feel you...

BM criminally harassed me, and police had to be called. I did not have her arrested bc of DH and his relationship with his daughter, but the cops warned her I would have her arrested if she tried anymore shit. I also tried to have compassion since she was pregnant with her 3rd spawn.

Since then? Manipulation to the extreme and I'm the bad one. oh well.

DH's family still bends over backwards to appease her and I'm over it. MIL says it is because otherwise they'll never see SD. I sometimes wish she would cross the line again, nothing would make me happier than calling the cops again.

Funny enough? SD has been friendly with me lately... she may be maturing and handling her batshit mother better, who knows?

When a woman is abused physically, emotionally, and mentally by her partner, and murders him, the defense now looks at that as a valid reason, and she doesn't have to spend her life in jail. She receives counceling, and support, from the torture she endured for years. Rightfully so.
people always ask "why did you stay"? But if you look at the reasons these wives stayed, its understood. Especially if you have bio children in these situations. Abuse is abuse, it doesn't just come from the man.
I love the saying.
"I used to think you took my breath away
but then I realized I was just being suffocated
by your bullshit".

Remember, with these aweful BM and SD etc..

THE BEST REVENGE IS LIVING WELL..

You're preachin' to the choir, sister!!

It's complete, utter bullshit! BM will literally ignore questions or comments about her false allegations! She acts as if she has done nothing to deserve such strict boundaries. It drives me even more insane! This woman made rape allegations against my DH while they were married..went to the police, went to the hospital for a rape exam--all with SD in tow!! She made child abuse allegations against me...called the cops, I had to be interviewed, as did DH...SD had to be interviewed...she put her daughter through that. Acts as if nothing happened and she's some kind of victim of her daughter's evil stepmother! The nerve!!

The one thing that gives me solace, is that when I was being interviewed by the detective investigating the child abuse allegation, I mentioned the prior false allegations (as did DH the day before) and asked what our recourse would be in the event that there are more false allegations in the future...he told me that BM had been warned. Some comfort in that!

Who wants to start a website like thedirty.com where we post all these losers online? There's nothing better than public shaming!