Why can't he go to the game and leave right after it and join you for Easter? Can't he take his son out to lunch another time? If the ex-wife is at the game too, can't she bring him home?

How many times a year does his son have a baseball game?

How many times a year is Easter?

There's your answer right there....his son will have plenty of other baseball games.

Also, five year olds don't play baseball. They ball t-ball, poorly, if that. This child isn't in the little league world series. And I can imagine there will tons of children who miss the game for Easter. He should make a priority to spend at least part of the day with you.

If you are second rate when dating it will only get worse if you get married.

How many times will he go to his son's game and sit next to BM and then go out to lunch...that may or may not include BM.

I have missed some games in my kids lifetimes (always a good reason or work) and they weren't crushed by the weight of the world by it.

And the kid is FIVE...they are a zillion T-ball games scheduled I'm sure. I think you should not let BF do this if spending Easter with your family is really important to you. If he doesn't think so, then he really won't improve as time goes on.

I understand that sports games can be incredibly important to some dads/families, however I would be angry that he felt it was okay to make plans with you and accept an invitation from your family for dinner during a holiday to then suddenly cancel on you, your family. Does he not understand that while he may be assessing how you get on with HIS family and child, the same can be said for him with your family? That is if he can be bothered to even meet them and think its good manners to cancel after accepting an invite.

Must say my own family would NOT be impressed and we are a large extended family with lots of kids.

Your bf is being rude, inconsiderate towards you, your family and while prioritisation in family changes dependant upon who is in need, I was always taught you cannot dump on someone when you get effectively a better invite.

You are currently test driving your bf, for his suitability for YOUR life partner, the father to your children and he either passes these life tests or he shunts you aside which you accept because he has a child. Thing is, do not allow you to come last, your happiness relegated to the top shelf while everyone else had a blast. Heard of being too amenable, too easy going, too accepting? Well, unless you stand up and demand to be counted then no other bugger will do it for you.

Depending on how long you've been together I think that him prioritizing his son over your family I feel is reasonable. Until I was married I always prioritized time with my family over that of my other half's family. Not saying that I never met their families but that I would always spend the big holidays with my family. One ex and I dated for 5 years before breaking up and I spent every Christmas, Easter etc with my family and him with his, same for my husband before we married. I'm glad that I did, those times with our families are precious, I saw my then boyfriend a lot more than I saw them. Now that I am married I will spend time with my husband and his family on some holidays and have. It doesn't mean that I wasn't sad to spend my first Christmas away from my family, but for me that is one of those things that changes once you get married is to spend holidays together. Before marriage I felt no obligation or desire to do so.

If the clash is on the saturday then I would see if you could arrange for a few of your family that will still be around to have a second gathering on the sunday and get your boyfriend to drive/sail up after the game/lunch spend saturday night with you and then meet a few of the family on sunday. Yes it won't be everyone but at least he will meet some people. It will also be easier on him to meet a few people than a whole crowd and he gets to spend time with his son.

I know you are upset at the change of plans but there will be other opportunities in the future for your boyfriend to meet your family, try not to focus on it.

I get both sides. Its his kid first sports game and yes, the kid would be crushed but the BM would prolly make it out to be 'see Daddy has a new family and doesn't love you anymore.'

It isn't that you are making him out to be a bad person...it is how it started with all of us. We the women make the compromise bc they can't let little Jr or Jr-ette down. After awhile, they don't even try to hide the fact that you come last or whatever plans you have made.

Propose this to him....since he is missing out on this get together, make a weekend trip to see your family so they can meet him. Don't be surprised if he can't do it until the Tball season is over though.

Your biography doesn't give your age or children if any but I'm assuming your 20's and no children.

Prepare for a life of disappointment and possibly turning to hell which is not too great a stretch. Just read around the blogs. And don't forget bio-mothers die like everyone else and some even just get fed up and walk away never to be seen again. Guess who becomes full time Mommy to a crushed child who absolutely does not was a new Mommy and could likely blame you for her disappearance. Remember children don't think like adults. Logic is a unknown concept to them at times. Adult logic that is.

If you insist in staying in this relationship don't have kids, don't even dream it will make things better. It will make the situation worse.

Listen I know you're in love but there are a million loveable guys out there. Get out of this and find one of them, childless of course, and make your own family in due time.

i am appalled that there would be a sporting event on Easter.

if that were my child, i woudl tell him that he cannot go to the game because Easter is a holiday (the most important holiday for Christians)and that it shoudl be spent with family and church. Of course, not sure if that situation applies to you as i dont know your faith and beliefs. Just saying what id do personally.

for your specific situation, that is not right at all for your BF to cancel. but again, shame on the school/sports program for even putting this event on teh calendar for that day (FWIW, im also against thanksgiving day sporting events and that's not even a religious holiday).

Oh boy.....ahhh the sports games. I am very angry about ss12 being on THREE different sports teams. So let me tell you, it's only going to get worse.

My fiance though, does not sit with the xwife in the bleachers......that's awkward. And why on earth did that league make a game on a holiday weekend??

I think that is pretty rude though...there will be MILLIONS of more games, he hasn't ever met your family??? Not to mention they changed the date for him.

He probably doesn't want to catch heat from his xwife to miss the ALL EVER IMPORTANT LIFE CHANGING EVENT: THE TBALL FIRST GAME ...and plus dad's get really weird over sports....it's kinda gross. I would rather watch my fish swim around in their tank.

Well, good luck and maybe put the pressure on and say how he's acting is wrong and this is really important to you. And have a good time with your family.