My ss8 and I get along for the most part. He's had to face a lot of changes this year. His mom hasn't been in his life at all since basically birth until this past year and she an unstable person. I work in a human services field and I also notice when ss8 COULD be reacting to changes or is. I'm empathetic but also more disengaged these days bc of getting hurt this past year. Dispute all of this my BF is livid anytime I point out to him about ss8 behavior. ss8 has lied and manipulated and just done all kids of destructive things that kids do when they are going thru a lot of these family changes. My BF and I are still trying to get over some of what happened last year mainly huge arguments about behavior and intent of behaviors, I was trying too hard last year, I was being taken for granted a lot as he has full custody and I think only twice the whole year we had a baby sitter unless he was visiting w his crazy BM. Anyway. My BF ended up being completely wrong about his "less than 1% chance" that his son was acting out or lying or fill in the blank. The child proved him wrong overtime. We are starting couples counseling in another week to deal w some of the past hurts and present issues. I just don't get it. Today this is an example of why I feel helpless : I was cleaning and organizing (they've only lived in this home since they've known me , no outside memories of this house before me)and I again put away a behavior tool that was ordered and sitting out but never used. It's taking up space and adding more clutter. I made the comment of "this is not a decoration. You remember when he (ss8) asked where this was on the mantle, it was when he came back from his grand parents and I had put a new picture of the three of us in the family frame on the mantel. This thing hadn't been on the mantel since before Christmas. Then you put it back up there bc he asked. It's not a decoration. IDk if he doesn't like the picture but this doesn't need to be on display" BF starts yelling "this is what's wrong w our relationship there's less than a 1% chance it was bc of the picture your a (tries not to say bitch) gets so angry he looks like he's going to burst. He doesn't even consider it's a possibility. Refuses. It really hurts me pretty bad. I understand the child if it was or was not bc of the picture I'm not saying he's awful etc just that this thing is not decoration and I observed xyz about his reactions to the mantel. So tired. Does any if this sound familiar? What do I do?