So, I have my CS hearing tomorrow with exH. He’s bringing his attorney, but I am not bringing mine, which is no biggie. Here it is in a nutshell, using figures that aren’t accurate, but will show what I’m talking about.
For 8 years he had been paying $385 (which was mutually agreed to after using a calculator). He asked for it to be lowered back in September, so he started paying $325. In December he decided he couldn’t afford that and started writing checks for $110, regardless of the fact that I didn’t agree to the change. The CS calculator I used, which is the one the conference coordinator will use, based on what he tells me is his income, shows that he would be responsible for $475 (with his last known actual income it would be $525). So now he wants to make a deal with me for $215, directly deposited into my account as there has been an issue of wife sending checks late….she does all finance related things.

He says that he can’t afford anything, and that he will probably lose his house if he pays even as much CS as we had agreed to previously. He makes more $ than DH, and his wife makes the same hourly as me, but works part-time (if what he tells me is correct re: income). The amount his wife gets in CS offsets what he pays out in CS, just like, if DH and I had joint finances, his CS payment would be offset by my CS rec'd. So basically they are like every other working couple with two incomes and bills. DH manages his bills taking CS he pays into consideration! This all boils down to poor financial planning on his part. I'm sorry, but that's not DD's problem.

I am so tired of exH kissing up to me when he wants something and then talking to me like I’m a POS when I don’t do exactly what he wants. I guess he’s like a lot of the BMs that people here deal with in that respect!