Should I call it a day?
The short of it is that BM has upped her game on the nastiness lately, directing it especially towards me. She is really like Jeckell and Hyde in that she can be vile and then really lovely to SO. My Christmas was ruined over a big argument that started because MIL got BM a present and SO said he'd give it to her if she got him one (he didn't in the end - thank god). I've been putting up with her texting him spiteful things about me and plastering them all over social networking sites but it really is beginning to take its toll. I'm sick of fighting with SO over her and sick of having to constantly remind/make him consider me and our relationship when she tries to lure him into unnecessary conversation/when she tries to manipulate him. I'm tired of feeling like I'm fighting a solo battle.
I keep thinking, I'm way too young for this and don't have any kids myself.. I don't have to be in this situation - but I love him.
Yesterday we had a big argument as we always see each other on a Sunday night and it's like our special time minus kids/family etc. SO picked me up from work Saturday night and we ended up having a film/takeaway night which was really nice. I woke up with a migraine so we got food and some pills to help my head and I said I'd go home to bed and he should go out with his friends. He asked me if I'd be coming to the pub with him later and I said yes as luckily my head was getting better - I told him id be there in 2 hours. In 2 hours I have him a call and found he had met all his friends, they were all 'making a night of it' and if I wanted to see him I knew where he was. We ended up arguing massively as I had told him I was coming out and he'd let me down, the worst of it though he swore at me really badly in front of his friends.
I'm starting to think what's the point - and am not sure if I should cut myself off from what could become an unhappy life or if I should fight it.
Sadly most of us have to get
Sadly most of us have to get to a point where we've been hurt and abused so much by the so called "love of our life" that we DON'T CARE anymore which comes directly after ANGER.
You should probably go here first: lovefraud.com and start reading.
If biodad doesn't stick up for you, that's a CLEAR indication that he is NOT READY to have a relationship with you. He wants his "cake and eat it too" by walking on eggshells with the BM "for the sake of the children" (TM) and then to use YOU as an emotional (and even can escalate to PHYSICAL) punching bag.
Been there, done that, burned the t-shirt.