She is NOT mature for anything! She is like 4 in an 11 going in 15 yo body! I told DH that if her mom gets her a phone, she cannot use it here. I want to get her some cash ( since I "never get her what she wants")- mind you, those are her mother 's words!- but I think I'm gonna giver her $50 cash and a series of gift slips for therapy sessions. I bought her a pair of Uggs, but since they probably are NOT what she wants, I'll wear them. Problem is, she has been raised to have unreasonable expectations and if she doesn't get them, she threatens suicide... God, at least first BM is half normal!

CPS will knock at the door and find nothing, because well they just open the door, make a few notes, punch the clock and go back to their desk job. She supposedly takes pills for migraines- a hangover doesn't count as a migraine...And she knows that DH can take the girls away, so really pissed that he doesn't...

Now that's a thought! I think she might have gotten her license by now, so she's legal. She mixes pot with narcotics and the kids are neglected, but when you break it down, legally she's covered. But then again, I was told- no, ordered, to stay out of it. So, basically their custody goes like this: nobody wants the children, so they share the unwanted-time... It makes me nauseous and if I dare say anything, somehow I will be the liar and the bad guy. I go to bed praying that I see them again every week... And no, I'm not complaining about her, but about her learned behavior. She is a child, a lost neglected unwanted innocent child...

My ex did some stupid things for a while, and every time, I called CPS. CPS investigated all of us- both houses AND the stepkids in school. They went home freaking out and balling, BM called my husband and freaked out crying that she is gonna lose the girls, DH was furious with me (he never mistreated me, but kinda sided with BM that "they do not want authorities involved"-EVER!). My position: If you are not doing anything wrong, who cares? They can investigate me 24-7 and find nothing, so who cares? So, you wonder WHY a demented "mother" that dumped two of her 4 kids with their dads and left for the next loser???? Anyone care to guess for a special kudos?

I am getting your point, but there is stuff you guys don't know- they are completely covered- she "knows" cops (if you know what I mean), and he is the wealthiest little rich boy in the area. I will look like a fool. They will find nothing. This is an area where people booted out an entire chief of police, everyone knows everyone and they keep their vices on the down low. My Gosh, this chick has been driving drunk and buzzed for years, i see her weaving in and out, i talked to her once when they came back from Court and she was buzzed as heck and driving-nothing. Even the kids think she is a waste of space, but they are scared to death to say anything because she has now lured them into thinking that they will move into "the mansions" once she marries this rich boy half her age. It is an impossible struggle. Kinda sorry to waste your time, I guess I am just venting, since my hands and mouth are tied. Even the BM#1 who is a teacher at the skid's school knows all this-do you not think that she could have done more? All I know is that BM#1 never allowed SS to ever come to the dad's house when he was still married to BM#2 for these reasons. They basically have each other by the nuts and it must be pretty bad, since they opted out of FOC during the divorce! There must be stuff that even I am not aware of...But CPS around here is swamped, we live next door to a very poor socioeconomic area and CPS is short-staffed. I am praying that BM gets into it with the girls again, and drops them off at our door pretty much naked- for months-like last time...

And then DH divorces me, and then we ALL suffer and Skids now don't even have half a guardian in their lives. It is a horrible situation. I might bait her with her phone back but at OUR house ONLY and based on close supervision and great behavior, Honor Roll, sports and chores and therapy (for right now, she needs space form the social scene in cyber space, though, for her safety). Like I said- the gravity to potential super wealth at the other house is huge though. I am convinced the guy will not marry BM, he is just using her (kind of a socio, can't get any "normal" 20 year old his age to sleep with him, abandonment issues, mother issues, stepfather issues, i know his background), but he is luring them all with "future wealth" and they follow him like moths to a flame.

The only evidence I have is reports from the kids- who have been scared by their parents to lie to the authorities- BM cried and lied to them "if you tell them what I do, they'll take you away from me forever", so the girls lie to cover for her. Short of a drug raid, I have no evidence, even DH covers it up for her. And cops around here have bigger problems than pot and narcotic pills! I am check-mated.

Yeah, but we are MARRIED. And, so far, just her threatening to kill herself is not a reason to involve the Feds. They will all laugh me in the face. I know how the Courts think. Until something actually HAPPENS to the kid, NOBODY will change custody. Not CPS, not FOC, not the Feds. I appreciate the input and concern, I really DO!!! Not sure I have substantial evidence to take in front of the Judge.

She hasn't abused or blatantly neglected them in the eyes of authorities-yet. She just picks them up and sits them in the couch, shuts her door and spends time with her BF. Not sure anyone would take custody for that. In my book, it's inappropriate and unfeeling, but nothing that gets CPS involved.

Not sure CPS is corrupt, but they are overwhelmed in this area. Now, she mistreats them, but that's not hurting them- only making them feel they are just crotchdroppings as someone called it