Step daughter visiting
Long story but feeling upset so googled this website. Stepdaughter was great when younger but soon learned to play everyone and was constantly rewarded for negative behaviour. Anyway, she claps and whole family jump. Husband and I now live in different city. He flew home espcecially to spend time with her and now we are paying for her airfare, which is 1k, to come visit here. She has not spoken to me for 5 years and refers to me as bitch features etc. Husband does not want rock the boat so lets her speak like this. Yes issues with hubby over all this. I now resent her a lot. She has never had anything to do with our chn, ignores them completely, her choice. Has got to stage I dislike her immensley.
Anyway, I need to make effort. She is coming for 2 weeks. Not staying with us. Husband is taking week off to spend it with her. We have very little $$$ and he will spend up large. We do not get one on one time with him and she is being let to have Dad to herself again. I am bitter. Thanks for listening.
You have every right to feel
You have every right to feel hurt. But let's be honest. It's not her fault is it. Your husband created a monster and clearly is still feeding it.
Isn't that par for the course
Isn't that par for the course of being a parent ??? Oh well you'll get over it.
Your DH is so much like mine.
Your DH is so much like mine. He was a big coward when it came to straightening SD out for her obnoxious behavior toward me. So I had to take care of it myself. She is banned from our home until DH can tell her in front of me that she is to respect me as his wife. And it's not negotiable.
If SD calls you any names you have a right to tell her to leave your home. Do it. Believe me, if your DH is afraid of SD, he is probably afraid of you. Stand up for yourself. Another poster suggested separate finances, allowing him to pay for his daughter. I totally agree.