I'm so grateful to find this site! Your forums are awesome & informative I can read for hours. I need help processing a recent event. My fiance has a 16 year-old BD he's never met or even spoken to over the phone. He was made aware he fathered a child 15 years ago when he was served with paternity papers from the state of Colorado while living in Florida. He states the relationship with the mother wasn't serious and for the last 15 years he's paid his child support, only speaking with the mother once in regards to the child. We've been together for 7 years and though I was made aware of his estranged daughter he's never elaborated much. The most he's shared is his resentment over paying child support and such, I never entertained those comments because I feel strongly he should take care of the financial responsibility. That's all he's ever mentioned to me. Now, she's found him on FB out of the blue. It was actually an exciting moment, and I initially was very supportive. Now I feel like a piece of crap because I'm starting to have a problem with how he's acting over it. I'm trying to decipher if it's jealousy that's pissing me off so bad or if I have a right to be ticked. He's become infatuated with this kid. He's never been a FB guru, but now in the past two weeks he's posted pics, shared pics of her from her page with "My Beautiful Daughter" headlines, marked her page to where he gets all her updates, texts her every morning to wish her a good day & say I love you, text her every night to see how her day went & say I love you. We also have 4 more kids together, my 3 bio & him 1 BS. He sure all hell doesn't contact his BS like this and he's not in our home. He use to refer to my kids as his son & daughters on FB, now their referred to as soon to be?? It might not be at all after all this, because I don't think I want to marry him now! I'd appreciate any words of wisdom, I want to address him about this without seeming petty & jealous. It's just WIERD!!