Digital voice recorder and video!!!!! When your kids say mommy told us to tell you that you are a pig, etc... have it recorded. Play it next week when you go to court. When she goes off on you at kid sports events record it. Play it in court.

While in court make an emergency request for temporary custody and start the process of using BMs toxic manipulations and behavior to start moving her to edge of your children's lives. Their mother or not, no kid needs to be exposed to the kind of toxic and vitriolic crap you describe is going on with your XW.

The only way to help a kid overcome the toxic, shallow and polluted end of their gene pool is with facts and to demonstrate how viable adults live, love and care for each other and their children.

My own SS-21 has managed to overcome the toothless moron manipulations of his SpermIdiot and the bitch from hell Sperm GrandMa. He knows full well which is the shallow and polluted end of his gene pool and he works very hard to avoid the behaviors that that part of his family exhibits and he works very hard to be a viable self supporting adult.

The key to being able to give this to a kid that is unfortunately burdened with a vitriolic half to their blended family equation is to keep them abreast of the facts in an age appropriate manner. Review the CO with them, explain that mommy is upset and should not be saying the things she says. Review BM's rants with the kids then ask them if they ever see you or your GF behaving that way. Ask them which way makes them feel better, etc, etc, etc....

Your children have a chance to over come BMs vitriolic crap. It is to late for BM and you owe her nothing anyway. Bare her idiot ass each and every time she pulls her toxic bullshit. In an adult, calm and professional manner of course. Be assertive but do not cave and do not blow a gasket.

Facts, facts, facts and more facts.

Work all of this out with your own attorney of course.

IMHO of course,

Good luck.

Wow, your ex is all kinds of special crazy. The amount of PAS here is over the top vindictive insane wild. But you know that already. I think I'd try for a restraining order against her. Tape her crazy shouting stunts at the sports events, document all the emails/texts might be able to shut her down showing she is not only harassing you but verbally threatening you.

The pictures of homework correct and then changed to incorrect? That's absurd. IMO I would get a very good lawyer and try for , if not sole custody due to BM being batsh*t crazy than at least real 50/50 where the children are with you one whole 7dys on, 7days off. It certainly would be more consistent on the ability to do simple things of importance like homework. It might even allow for your week you do sports events, BM's week she does them. What is going on at the events is detrimental to the child and their team. No children can perform under these types of BS scenes taking place. There's one member here regularly that actually does have her skids fulltime due to extreme PASing and BS games .

Your ex is so bitter and crazy with it that she is doing real mental harm to these kids. These are basically babies at 6 and 8 and they are being torn apart by this woman's actions and inability to raise the children supporting a relationship with their father. You want your lawyer to include every possible area that is of concern (the PASing, the harassing communication, the method of acceptable communication, 'rights' of who/when attends events, holidays, drop-offs/pick-ups)...this is your chance to cover these areas and get it al included as a legal court order. This lady will try and find each and every loosely worded section of CO and abuse it to her interpretation. Seal up those loopholes and clarify all sections poorly worded going in.

Wow! Your ex is seven shades of coo-coo. I agree with all the advice given so far. The only thing I would add is to *kindly* suggest to the judge that your ex be court-ordered to take some co-parenting seminars. I am not sure if it will actually help but it might take some pressure off of you. What are the kid's report cards like? If the kids are doing well - which by my understanding they are - your ex really has no leg to stand on here to change visitation because she "claims" you are not properly helping the kids with their homework.

Oh, and your ex needs a hobby - preferably one that doesn't involve firearms or sharp instruments.

Lock your doors at night.

I agree with all of the advice given. The only thing I can add is to research your state's laws before recording any conversation with her, as in many states it is illegal to record someone's conversation without their consent.

I'm sorry you have to deal with such a mess and best of luck in court!

your ex is like my sks BM!! Its awesome isnt it!?

I love reading that you have documented everything. My DH has resdential custody. At one point BM was on supervised visits... we are now at them living with us, seeing BM 4 days a month. The above posters are exactly right YOU have to not let her do this. My advice for court---

Our attny had our documentation from years of issues (ours a lot of harrasment but violence as well). When my DH was on the stand Attny said, "can you tell me what happened on X day regarding SK and X incident". My husband would discuss it. Atty " can you tell me about x day", etc etc. The judge eventually stopped it saying "ive heard enough, you can step down." BM got up there and the judge just asked her directly about the incidents- no attorney- and she fumbled, lied, and admitted some ludacris things. In the end the judge was so in shock he made his ruling right hten and there on the stand.
Use your documentation. Memorize it. It is fact and present it that way.

Good luck.