Holiday Drama Has Already Started. My Blood Is Boiling.
My Sk's and DIL'S told my Dh they are wanting to spend Thanksgiving with us at our house this year. I smell a rat!!!! DH is so happy .He thinks they will actually come to our house. This is what they told DH. Dad you know we have no use for your wifey daughter. Our wives cant stand her. So we are more than willing to come to your house for the holidays as long as you tell your wifey daughter not to come. Let me tell you there is no way in Hadees that we will tell my daughter to stay away from my own house for them stupid freaks. The have hurt her so much ever since she has been in this family. My daughter has a college degree and makes good money and people like her and she is very attractive. This is why she is so hated by the DIL'S. I told DH you tell your kids to go play in the road .And if he cant tell them then I will do his job for him. The holidays will stay like always .We will have Thanksgiving with my family at my house and SK"S can go to their mom's. Im telling yall Im just so mad . Sometimes I wish I was single so I could have some peace.
So as hard as they tried,
So as hard as they tried, they couldn't make daddy dearest choose them over you so they have moved onto a new target. At the very least daddy, you have to choose US over her daughter!! Pathetic isn't it?
Stand your ground girl!!
Thanks for the laugh! Just
Thanks for the laugh! Just love it. But oh, you forgot the biscuits in the oven - too bad they're burnt to a crisp. Also, you forgot that cool whip for the pedi pie --- Whoops, was that shaving cream with wisker chunks I gabbed instead?
Hilarious! I needed the laugh
Hilarious! I needed the laugh because this is the exact same problem we're having with my ss44 and sd48! Totally jealous of my bd33 relationship with their father. So jealous in fact they won't even talk to us anymore because we told them no way were we going to cut my daughter out of things just because they don't like her. I told ss44 last spring that their father came into bd33 life when she was 11 years old, of course they would have a loving relationship. He loves her like a daughter and she loves him like a father. You just can't ignore that. It went right over ss44 head. SKs don't seems to care about any one but themselves!
That's terrible. Invite
That's terrible. Invite themselves, send their acceptable 'to be included guest' list and DH is happy? No way. No how. Please DILs, do the guy a real favor and stop playing games. Either come (if invited) and behave or stay home. No exceptions.
I wonder if BM is has other plans this year or just isn't having dinner so DILs are trying to squeeze into your holiday , but only granting you their joyful presence if you plan the day to suit them?
I can pretty much tolerate anyone for a few hours now and then (as long as they behave , are civil and treat everyone else with polite respect, even if faked), but them setting the guest list is a total deal breaker. No one comes into my home and tells me who I must and must not include. No, any thought of being civil and tolerant for a few hours just flew right out the door.
But of course, if Daddy wants to host his brats at the local restaurant for holiday dinner while I entertain my guest/family in my home, he'd be free to do so. I spent last Thanksgiving day sitting in the waiting room while my dear mother went through emergency surgery, scared to death I would loose her...life's too short to play games with people who are all about 'me me me'.
Im just not gonna have it. I
Im just not gonna have it. I use to be a fun loving person but over time I have really changed. Im tried of keeping my mouth shut to keep peace . DH tries to keep peace but he needs to knock the hell out of them or just go move in with them. I use to treat my SK'S and DIL very good but they start their crap again with my daughter and I will have a come apart. Its just simple as can be I will stand my ground with them so bring it on SK"S and DIL'S. I need to go to bed!!!!!
I would tell them that they
I would tell them that they are welcome to come for Thanks Giving but that your family will be there too. If they come, fine. If they don't .. even better.
If they cause drama eject them.
Pretty simple IMHO.
Good luck.
I would tell my DH that you
I would tell my DH that you do not want them there because they cannot be respectful to you or your daughter, and you don't want your holiday ruined because of them. I agree with the poster that says "thanks but that won't work for us, sorry!" And let it be at that. Be with your family and your daughter, and they can go elsewhere! That is terrible!!! I would have a cow and let my DH have it!
What a bunch of entitled
What a bunch of entitled brats. It sounds like they ganged up against your daughter. I guess they needed a target so they band together and pick on an innocent person. There are always people that you will not like in this world but if you are "mature" you can put your differences aside and get along for a couple of hours. I guess these people are not "mature". Very sad to slap an ultimatum on your DH. what do they expect, for you and DH to tell your daughter to "get lost" on thanksgiving? What a bunch of idiots. I bet they don't even understand the meaning behind thanksgiving as it sounds like they are thankful for nothing.
Stepaside--I really enjoy
Stepaside--I really enjoy reading your posts. You are witty, intelligent and your writing style flows nicely. You have great advice that you share. You should be a therapist. Take care
So upon further thinking,
So upon further thinking, what if you let DH think you're going to put on this meal, and then that morning you get up and you go to another family member's home and celebrate Thanksgiving with them and your daughter can be right there with you. Let DH plan and make the entire meal on HIS OWN since he wants to allow them to continue with this behavior. Make other plans, and let him have his kids over. He can handle cooking the meal himself. If they want to be rude, who cares what they think if you do this? Just my humble opinion. I tell ya, I've gotten more and more bold with my DH, and will not hesitate to let my hurt and opinions be known to him -- loudly. I don't care anymore.