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New boundaries for SD, no intimacy for ME!

1tinsoldier's picture

Just when I thought we were doing better I'm even more concerned than ever about the relationship between DH and my SD14. He set new boundaries that included less time with his ex, the BM of his girls, and it seems that he's been on punishment since because the girls haven't been to our home since the change. The SD14 was on a "severe" punishment that included no phone and no visitation priviledges after we found out she took a ring that belonged to me and kept it for more than 8 months without so much as a word. I swear I'm seeing some things in DH that honestly bother me. DH and BM are spending more time talking about their children but it's done in a way that isolates me. He hadn't spoken to his girls in more than a week but the first time he did finally speak to SD14 he kept it under wraps from me, almost like he was cheating! As for intimacy, there has been NONE since the blow out with the SD almost a month ago. NOTHING! Last night when he talked to her I swear it was like listening to a guy talking to a new girlfriend. He was excited and playful like she was a new woman in his life. Afterwards? He rolled over and went to sleep but not before I asked him what was going on? "Nothing" was his response, "I just haven't been in the mood." What is this?!?!

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

I don't want to alarm you, but something just doesn't seem right. Unless there is some medical condition like low-T or something, I've never known a man to "not be in the mood" unless there was something else going on...be it that he just isn't interested in his wife any longer or has something else going on the side. I really hope it isn't either in your case, and he just has some hormone imbalance or something.

1tinsoldier's picture

I agree. I'm just afraid to think of what that "something" could be. Could the seperation from his daughter have him like this? I've told him before that she acts like she's his woman and not his 14-year old daughter. I wonder if that attitude went both ways and I only saw her part? I hate thinking like this!

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

It could be depression from not having contact with his daughter...that is possible. Sending good thoughts your way! It has to be tough not knowing what is going on.