Let me just start out by saying I have been married before and had two great SC . They seen us one weekend a month and I loved seeing them come. My XH was inevitably what tore our marriage appart. I never had any issues with my SC or their BM. I now am married to the love of my life and my best friend. I could not ask for a more loving and supportive NH. I am having issues with my SD and her BM. In the beginning when we first met i knew he had a D from his first marriage. I knew he had joint custody and had her every other week. I knew his XW and I knew she was nosey and spiteful. I heard stories about how she broke up his last two relationships but I didn't think it could possibly get as bad as it is. He knew I had two BC from my first marriage and I had full custody. We have very minimal contact with their BF. My issues started when we got engaged. At that point it was solely the BM I had issues with. My BC and my soon to be SD got along great. We got along great. At that point I was dealing with the BM doing things. She pretty much told us how things were going to be done in our home. I let it go in the beginning because I wanted to be respectful. She would call between 10-12 times a day for anything. Sometimes for things totally unrelated to the SD. When we got married she pretty much forced me to change our wedding date by saying if we didn't then we couldn't have my SD that day because it wasn't good for her. On our honeymoon she called every single day and let me just say my NH answering that phone caused alot of friction. Our BS was born shortly after and she showed up to the hospital and demanded to get to hold my BS! She then made statements about how we should not have had a son because that is what they were suppose to have. I was LIVID! The final straw was when she started buying gifts for my newBS and decided to try to tell me how to raise him. At that moment I no longer had any patients and put my foot down. Once she was confronted by me things did begin to change, for the worse. It was at that point my SD started coming to our home saying this was my BM's things this is my BM House my BM has camera's in your room so she can watch you. I pretty much lost my temper and told her it was my house now and my rules and my things and she was going to respect me. I told the BM the same thing. within two weeks the SD accused my BS8 of some illegal activity and the police got involved. When the detective questioned my SD she told them that her BM told her to say it. At that moment my feelings for the SD and the BM totally changed. I tried to that point to be respectful and at least understanding. After that all gloves have been off. I almost feel resentment for my SD and her mother. Every time I see my NHXW now I feel jealous and I feel outraged. I want him to cut all contact with her. Every time I see my SD which is every other week all week I see her BM in her. She looks like her she acts like her and I don't want her anywhere near her BF or my BC. I really would like to know if this feeling is normal without being judged. I am having a hard time with this because I know she is just a child and in the beginning I thought things were going to be great but now I don't even want her in my home. It seems when she is there the problems come. Even my NH has made the statement we would have the picture perfect marriage if it were not for his BD AND her BM. How can I make this better?