Fathers Day
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Well I am not expecting dh's daughters to call him on this day. I think 5 years ago, one daughter did call. I will give him a gift, and a card each from me, and one from my kids.. I actually got a cute card saying from the dog, which I will use, as dh loves our dogs! ( I really should use that for his dsughters, but it would be an insult to dogs everywhere!). I feel bad for him every year. I have to say that when I first et dh, I was tempted some years to invite his witches over, but that has long since changed. What are you all doing? And it should be interesting to see what actually happens..
This makes me so sad for your
I'm so sorry Echo. My heart
I'm so sorry Echo. My heart breaks for you and your family. I can't imagine how much pain you're in and will be for a long time.
If there's anything at all I can do, please, you know how to reach me
I'm pregnant with our first
I'm pregnant with our first and the other day I asked DH if he wanted to celebrate Father's Day--his response was: How about after the baby is born?
So I guess we aren't. I don't mind since I didn't and don't celebrate Mother's Day--I only make a big deal about it for MIL because she cares a lot about it.
Maybe he is still traumatized from the first Father's Day (midst of court battle) where he got a horrible card from someone (it wasn't signed) in the mail?
"Happy Father's Day, Asshole! I hope you rot in Hell!" with a bullet on the front.
The second one was still in the midst of court battles and his cousin, God knows what she was thinking, had printed up some shirts with World'd Best Dad on them and tried to make him go to their barbecue and wear it--even though they know he had never seen or taken care of SS, so it was just like a slap in the face. Then the cousin got butthurt that he didn't go, and said that they still "love" DH.
Like he really needed that.
We spent the day making a card for his dad who passed away.
"My husband and I haven't
"My husband and I haven't seen his sons or heard from them in a year and a half. (They're 21 and 23 now) We don't talk about them. Ever. Their names are never mentioned in our home."
Same thing here only it's been almost four years since the youngest of three PASed out (shortly after the oldest two PASed out) The youngest is 10 1/2 years old.
I used to do crafts and buy stuff for father's day on behalf of his kids--they were being PASed so much that they barely put in any effort. Or they would gave him lame gifts like a hastily printed off inkjet greeting card, ink still wet, with three lottery tickets--one for each skid!!
I don't bring up the subject--nor mention their names. Their horrendous school report cards keep rolling on in, though. I was "set straight" early on that I am not to comment about them whatsoever. Of course the double standard (TM) applies.
Sometimes my grown children get Guilty Daddy something--although the way he picks on my grown self-supporting children, he really doesn't deserve it. I think GD fantasizes about his children--it's the only way he can cope--knowing in reality that they are headed for orange jumpsuit land.
I am going to celebrate
I am going to celebrate Father's Day with my own dad, and my kids will be with their father, my ex. Luckily, dh gets along great with my dad. I had debated over not getting him a gift or card, or just trying to ignore dy, but felt I wanted to celebrate him as a stepp father and husband..
I'm not looking forward to
I'm not looking forward to Father's Day. I can not recall SD ever sending DH anything or calling for Father's Day - even when they were on supposedly good terms. This has been going on for the 22 years we've been married so I don't foresee any change. But still, DH sits in his chair and mopes around all day - really something to look forward to, huh? And after it is over he becomes passive-aggressive with me, I'm the only target available. Well, this year is going to be different. I will try to make the day positive for him. He will be getting a cute card from the dogs and will be taken out for lunch. Passive-aggressive behavior will not be allowed.
SD has made no contact with
SD has made no contact with us in over a year unless it's to be mean & vile to DH. You know the same old games, you abandoned me, you're an absent parent, you love clydella more, it's not fair that you guys are happy. I'm just sick of hearing it.
I will wish DH a Happy Fathers Day, cause I think he's a great Dad, but that's as far as it goes. I refuse to talk about her and let her rule our lives & emotions. I intend to do things that I know he will enjoy and keep his mind busy and off of SD and the sadness she brings. I don't know what SD will do, but I don't live my life waiting to see either.
I had considered that
I had considered that stepaside, and for a few years did nothing.. However, my dh is a great father, step father, and he loves our dogs. So I feel just because he has crap for offspring does not mean I shouldn't show my appreciation for him, along with my kids. I am careful to get a spouse card that speaks of our relationship only, a funny dog card, and my kids do care about him.. And honestly I would be uncomfortable to have my dad over and not mention my dh.. Life goes on, hopefully without the wolf pack for the next 40 years or so!
Well, now that that they have
Well, now that that they have their money, I suspect no one is going to hear from them on Father's Day.. Last contact was about a month ago, and dh did not feel that the contact was anything more than what she said.. Just calling because somebody who gave me a truckload of money asked me too.. Pathetic creatures....
I agree with you - no need to
I agree with you - no need to rub salt into the wound and mention SD. Just hoping I can distact him a bit from moping around over SD.
Since stepdevil14 has been
Since stepdevil14 has been ignoring/snubbing DH for months now and lives with BM full time, I don't count on him hearing from her.
So, just to be on the safe side, I told him I'm taking him up to his favorite fishing spot in the mountains for a picnic lunch, bottle of wine and all day relaxation with NO cell service. Even if stepdevil tries to reach us, sorry, we're out of town for the day. Kindly fuck off...:)
I am a father,not step,but
I am a father,not step,but have dealt with tough issues in the past with our bio-son.Just a shout out to all you dads...Happy Fathers Day and hang tough !!!
I will probably take DH out
I will probably take DH out to eat (it's what he loves!) Saturday, since he works Sunday. I will go over to my own father's house on Sunday.
SD might call but only to rub it in because DH will probably forget to call her on her Bday, which is close to Father's Day. And which she just reminded him of but he will forget (because he's horrible with dates) and I will say nothing. }:)
I do have another SD but she has never acknowledged DH as her father on any day, unless she wants something. I really do feel bad for him on Father's Day. His own father has passed and both of his kids are grown brats.