Honestly, I would thank her. Being a stepmom, I have seen the incredible difficulties that comes from being a stepmom. It is so hard to love children at an arm's distance away.

She looks down on so many people. She is a snob. I don't understand how she wound up with my Dad, who was a factory worker his whole life. Her friends are so obnoxious my dad won't be around them.

I wish she would have been kinder and gentler, and not allowed her daughter to affect my relationship with my dad (long story).

For over 15 years, I have never disrespected this woman once. I am proud of that. She has not been easy.

I personally have a good relationship with my step-mom. It wasn't always that way, i was delightful 15 year old mini-wife when they got married. but as an adult looking back, i appreciate so much everything that she did and still does for me. She is truly an awesome person to have in my life.

Surprisingly I have a great relationship with my step mom. My mom, dad and step mom get along and what's funny is that my mom's and I will go to lunch together sometimes. I try to use her approach when dealing with my step son but he is cut from a different cloth than I so its a much different dynamic. I would tell her thank you, for always respecting me and making me feel cared for. She is a great woman and I am lucky she is in my life.

I would tell her that I pray for her and hope she finds peace. I wouldn't mention her attempts to pas me from my mom or gossip about us when she knew I heard her. I wouldn't mention how mean she is/has been to me, my dad or anyone else. She'd deny it all. Selective memory! But I'd try to convey to her that I do not wish her harm.